Should I stop talking to my sister?

[sylphMugen]

I'm 22 and she's 29. As I've grown up I've gained some strong opinions about equality, women's rights etc. For a while she was living with her ex husband and on Facebook when I'd post anything about my views she'd comment telling me to shut up or would have nothing to say. They eventually got a divorce and she moved into our mom's house about a year ago. Typically the way she would initiate communication was to mock what I was doing, wearing, how I speak etc or if we were watching something on TV she would mock the people on TV which was annoying to me. There was an incident when she was going to take my old room and while she was gone I cleared everything out so she could put her new bed in that she said she was going to be getting. When she saw that I took everything out of the room she literally screamed in my face saying f*** you and your b****. There was also a time when my mom, her and me were talking then I was trying to say something and she threw water on me telling me to shut up. Recently I moved out and got engaged. I posted a picture of my ring and she didn't say anything until I mentioned it over the phone. Our dad is a bit strange and wasn't there when I was small. On Christmas my sister was pressuring me to go see him with her but I had made plans. And I had told my sister not to tell him anything about what I was doing because he gets threatening if he knows anything negative going on tends to blow things out of proportion. And conveniently she didn't listen to me. I've confronted her about her behavior and each time she behaves victimized and tells me I'm the one being rude or mean to her. I've tried several times to tell her that her being dismissive to me is bothersome and the last time I saw her after confronting her over a voicemail she literally did not look at me and said nothing. She also as I've noticed from living with her typically always goes out with her new boyfriend and leaves her 7 year old daughter at home alone, on the TV all night even if she has school. My niece has also even cried to me about not knowing where her mom went. She also has yelled in her daughter's face in front of me for her to shut up . Lately I've been wondering if I should just give up on the relationship with her. It's extremely frustrating, and I feel like I cannot be myself around her without being ridiculed for literally everything I do or dismissed and told to shut up constantly. I'm just sick of it.

Thanks in advance for any thoughts

[Fudgie]

Your sister sounds very toxic. Do you want to stop talking to her? If so, then yes, block her on everything and just don't see her. It's about what is best for YOU here. If she is treating you like crap and she's always been this way, why bother?

[sylphMugen]

That's essentially my resolution. I'm tired of all the negative people in my life lol

[Fudgie]

There is no divine law that says you need to be in contact with ANYONE who abuses you. You owe her nothing. Just because you two happened to come out of the same mother and you were raised together doesn't entitle her to a relationship with you. You have moved out and you're engaged now. Heck, you can have a wedding and you don't even have to invite her or your weird dad or anyone that you don't want to. World is your oyster, girl.

[sylphMugen]

Thanks ☺ if you have any new posts on here I'll reply to em!

[qwaspolk82]

I'm 22 and she's 29. As I've grown up I've gained some strong opinions about equality, women's rights etc. For a while she was living with her ex husband and on Facebook when I'd post anything about my views she'd comment telling me to shut up or would have nothing to say. They eventually got a divorce and she moved into our mom's house about a year ago. Typically the way she would initiate communication was to mock what I was doing, wearing, how I speak etc or if we were watching something on TV she would mock the people on TV which was annoying to me. There was an incident when she was going to take my old room and while she was gone I cleared everything out so she could put her new bed in that she said she was going to be getting. When she saw that I took everything out of the room she literally screamed in my face saying f*** you and your b****. There was also a time when my mom, her and me were talking then I was trying to say something and she threw water on me telling me to shut up. Recently I moved out and got engaged. I posted a picture of my ring and she didn't say anything until I mentioned it over the phone. Our dad is a bit strange and wasn't there when I was small. On Christmas my sister was pressuring me to go see him with her but I had made plans. And I had told my sister not to tell him anything about what I was doing because he gets threatening if he knows anything negative going on tends to blow things out of proportion. And conveniently she didn't listen to me. I've confronted her about her behavior and each time she behaves victimized and tells me I'm the one being rude or mean to her. I've tried several times to tell her that her being dismissive to me is bothersome and the last time I saw her after confronting her over a voicemail she literally did not look at me and said nothing. She also as I've noticed from living with her typically always goes out with her new boyfriend and leaves her 7 year old daughter at home alone, on the TV all night even if she has school. My niece has also even cried to me about not knowing where her mom went. She also has yelled in her daughter's face in front of me for her to shut up . Lately I've been wondering if I should just give up on the relationship with her. It's extremely frustrating, and I feel like I cannot be myself around her without being ridiculed for literally everything I do or dismissed and told to shut up constantly. I'm just sick of it.

Thanks in advance for any thoughts

 

Your sister sounds like a b*&^%. I would avoid her if that was my sister. She's toxic. She's rude. She obviously has some issues. My brothers and I were mean as f* when we were little but we do not act like that now. We tease each other but we do not ridicule or do any of the things your sister does to you. That's just disturbing.

[KantSleep]

If you get nothing out of the relationship but upset, there is nothing wrong with backing away from it. Why subject yourself to her? She sounds like a terrible parent and a lousy individual.