Feeling embarrassed!help

[Jenniffer92]

Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this, Long story short me and my partner got back together after nearly 7 months apart we have a 3 year old son, and I know I still love him so we decided to give things another go.. The problem is iv recently found out while we were apart he slept with a girl who used to do my spray tans, I met her through his sister but she met my partner through me she even met my little boy, this girl has basically seen me naked, when I found out it made me feel vulnerable, embarrassed and betrayed not only by my partner but by someone who is supposed to be a professional, I trusted this girl she came in my home, met my son and I came to see her as a friend, the hurt and pain has really hit me hard, more than I would have thought and I just didn't know we're else to turn to vent how this is making me feel, it's hard to talk to my family without them just judging,criticising and feeling like there jumping down My throat

[mustlovedogs]

I understand why you would feel embarrassed. That being said - I don't particularly think your ex did anything wrong (ex being your bf now), but rather her. Your writing seems to say you feel the same way. I would suggest you get a new spray tanner and distance yourself from her.

[TheT]

Im so sorry you have to go through this. I can't begin to imagine how you feel... If I were you, I might try focusing on what a benefit it will be to your child to live and hopefully continue to grow up in a two parent home (a silver lining if you will). Not that what I think he did was right, but at 7 months or so, and depending on the level of communication when apart, he might not have known if he would ever be with you again (assuming the separation was mutual). Despite being seperated were you to ever/still married? This changes things all together if so... Thats infidelity and might require counseling. I would maybe even consider emphasizing to him that you respect yourself too much to just let this slide. He needs to prove to you that he sincerely loves you. If he cant in some way, maybe the effort isnt worth it, especially since your childs perception of a happy home would be a lie... My 2 cents for what its worth. Good luck and be strong.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. How did you come about this info? Did he tell you or did she? Why would you feel embarrassed and why would family not understand? Are there trusted friends perhaps who don't know her whom you could confide in? You need to distance your self from her.

The problem is iv recently found out while we were apart he slept with a girl who used to do my spray tans. I trusted this girl she came in my home, met my son and I came to see her as a friend

[j.man]

I think it's safe to say the biggest takeaway here is to not spray tan.

[JaggerJim]

Does a spray tan entail getting naked? I did not know this.

[IAmFCA]

I understand why you would feel embarrassed. That being said - I don't particularly think your ex did anything wrong (ex being your bf now), but rather her. Your writing seems to say you feel the same way. I would suggest you get a new spray tanner and distance yourself from her.

This, exactly.

 

Simply stop using her services.

[boltnrun]

Does a spray tan entail getting naked? I did not know this.

 

Yep, so you won't have blank spaces where your underwear/swim suit is.

 

Plus, the spray tan ruins fabric until it dries completely.

 

Never had one, but I've heard.