where do i stand?

[plzlmk]

notes: she broke up with her boyfriend of 1.5 years a month ago & we work together. there is another guy she also might like at work, they talk and hangout too.

 

she made all the moves on me. telling me to ask her out, called me attractive, asked for my #, & lots more. we both suck at texting, at least i do. she says she does too. so we dont text much. we hung out together first time outside of work at a party & i could tell we were into eachother. took her home didn't make moves because she got a little drunk. still didn't text much. i decided to call her to hangout she was busy but made a rain check for the next day. yesterday i slept in & she texted me like 5 times about the date but i didn't reply was sleeping. last text before i called her she asked if i was mad at her. i reassured her i wasn't & i was merely sleeping. i took her out to a dinner later that night & watched fireworks after. at dinner i mentioned im enjoying the date she said "we are officially calling it a date?" with a big grin i said "well i would like to" she said she agreed. during ride home she made a comment about my hands & she grabbed one then we held hands for a few mins then she took her hand away. when i dropped her off we were saying our goodnights & when we went for the hug i went for the kiss she wasn't ready & i missed. im very shy & she knows this. it took a lot for me to go for it. i backed off put my head down in embarrassment, muttered something like damn im an idiot. she said "no greg come here" & pulled me in for a second kiss. i was so embarrassed & nervous i think i ed the second up too. it was short & very innocent. she said "you are the sweetest guy I've ever met" I said "i really like you" she replied "i really like you too, hit me up tomorrow lets hang out again". she texted 10 mins later "dont worry about tonight you are very sweet i had a great time tonight" next day i hit her up but she said she had to hangout with family. i said "ok thats cool have fun haven't heard anything since (about 12 hours)

 

 

Bad:

1. let her in too early i think. i told her a lot about me that i dont normally tell people but i really do like her and i told her i trusted her.

2. the kiss

3. called me sweet

4. other guy is more masculine. body builder model type with a lot confidence. he is an womanizer guy im the shy innocent guy.

5. our texting has never been good. feel like it be better after the date

Good:

1. she said she really likes me

2. she went for the second kiss

3. she agreed on it as a date

[gebaird]

First of all, breathe. It's only been 12 hours! I know at this stage every little thing can create anxiety, because you don't know where things are going or if you've crossed a line. Just relax, be cool and let things unfold at their own pace. She got anxious just because you were SLEEPING. Totally unnecessary, right? From everything you said, the date ended well, and her pulling you in for a second kiss is better than if it had worked the first time.

 

Time will tell if this will go anywhere, but be confident. You may not be a womanizing muscle-man (thankfully), but you've got something to offer.

[Andrina]

She probably isn't ready to date so soon after a year and a half relationship. She should've taken at least 6 months off. Dating someone at work isn't usually a good idea, because most new relationships don't work out and then you have the awkwardness of still seeing each other every day.

 

Yes, you'd do well to build your confidence. Never be negative and call yourself names. It's much more attractive to make a joke about mistakes. Confidence is a great attractor and makes an average looking person far more attractive. Get some self help books from the library on building self esteem, or read some articles on the internet.

 

Only time will tell if she puts the effort you'd like into this prospective relationship. Just make sure she's treating you right to stay in your life. Don't get into the habit of seeing someone every day when you first start dating. Twice a week, in my opinion, is the norm for a good pace when just starting out. If it doesn't work out with her, fate has someone else in store for you. Take care.

[Clio]

Good:

She likes you.

Bad:

She is fresh out of a long-term relationship.

 

It could go either way. There is no reason to panick based on what you wrote. You did not mess up anything. Let her resurface on her own. Keep expectations in check though.

[Wiseman2]

Relax and ask her out on a second date, not a vague hangout with no specific time, place, day (that is friendzone behavior). See how that goes. Do you see each other at work?

 

The risk factors here are:

You work together, could get messy, she may think you are work buddies and doesn't want to get involved with coworkers.

She may want a transition guy after a breakup (friendzoner or male-girlfriend to keep her busy, boost her ego).

She may still be communicating with the ex or trying to reconcile, too soon to tell but he's probably still in the picture or on her mind.

she broke up with her boyfriend a month ago & we work together. took her home didn't make moves because she got a little drunk. i took her out to a dinner later that night & watched fireworks after. she said "you are the sweetest guy I've ever met" I said "i really like you" she replied "i really like you too, hit me up tomorrow lets hang out again".

Good:

1. she said she really likes me

2. she went for the second kiss

3. she agreed on it as a date

[DaNgeRTasTiC]

Lol relax man. You're in.

 

Slow down and enjoy it.