Dude is cheating on my friend

[Burning world]

So maybe you guys don't get questions like this, maybe you do. I have no idea, I'm new here. Anyways...

Today I was looking at Instagram posts and I follow my friend, let's call her Dee, who is inactive on her account, and her Internet boyfriend, refer to him as Rob. I initially followed him because they were rather shady about their relationship and I was a bit territorial about Dee, she's done a couple things on the internet (eg give away personal information sometimes involving herself and her friends, including me, which raised my wants to protect her to an unhealthy level, like yes stalking her boyfriend just a teeny bit.)

Back to the story, I saw a post by him of a girl I didn't recognize and he referred to her as his girlfriend and baby, which highly confused me, so I asked Dee if she and Rob broke up. She said no, and urged me to tell her my reasoning. I did, even though it might have been a bit stupid to do so, but she admitted that they were going to break up anyways, as he had started ignoring her a few days ago and he was clingy, like they got in fights when she said she had to go hang out with friends, or my personal favorite, he let her fall asleep over Skype calls and listened to her sleep. When I tried confronying him, he blocked me, but I still have a couple friends that do have access to his profile and want to in sorts get him to apologise and explain himself. I'll probably get the "You have to let it go" tips, but any suggestions.

Also, he lives halfway across the country, so I can't go to his doorstep to get in contact.

What I'd like to do is establish a way of communication where he can't just block me.

[Hollyj]

Had they met?

[SherrySher]

Your friend was the one dating this guy and she no longer wants to, so what's the problem here? He doesn't have to explain himself to you, sorry to sound rude, but he doesn't. Your friend doesn't seem to care because she said she's done with him. So I would basically say, you're the only one here who's bothered and you've got no reason to seeing as it was never your relationship.

I know you're trying to be a good friend, but you're overstepping your boundaries. You've given your friend what you felt was important information, now it's up to her to deal with it as she wants to.

[Clio]

This is a huge waste of your time and energy. You seem to care about it more than SHE does. Your preoccupation with this is not normal. Being a loyal friend is very commendable but there need to be boundaries. You alerted her about the cheating. You did good. However, your role is done. Anything past that is not healthy. She is not your underage daughter. You need to focus your energy in whatever needs fixing in your own life.

[j.man]

You have way too much time on your hands.

[Wiseman2]

Are any of these real life relationships? Have you ever met dee or rob? Have rob and dee ever met?

 

It sounds like you have the hots for dee. What's your vested interest here? Stay out of it, she already dumped rob.

 

He should block you because you're harassing him looking for unneeded drama and moreover, you should block him...no stalking him etc. and get the nerve up to tell dee you have the hots for her.

I follow my friend, let's call her Dee, who is inactive on her account, and her Internet boyfriend, refer to him as Rob.I tried confronying him, he blocked me,What I'd like to do is establish a way of communication where he can't just block me.

[DaNgeRTasTiC]

The Barista from hall pass. You don't wanna be the creepy guy that has a hair doll do you.

 

Stay out of it it's not your place

[qwaspolk82]

So maybe you guys don't get questions like this, maybe you do. I have no idea, I'm new here. Anyways...

Today I was looking at Instagram posts and I follow my friend, let's call her Dee, who is inactive on her account, and her Internet boyfriend, refer to him as Rob. I initially followed him because they were rather shady about their relationship and I was a bit territorial about Dee, she's done a couple things on the internet (eg give away personal information sometimes involving herself and her friends, including me, which raised my wants to protect her to an unhealthy level, like yes stalking her boyfriend just a teeny bit.)

Back to the story, I saw a post by him of a girl I didn't recognize and he referred to her as his girlfriend and baby, which highly confused me, so I asked Dee if she and Rob broke up. She said no, and urged me to tell her my reasoning. I did, even though it might have been a bit stupid to do so, but she admitted that they were going to break up anyways, as he had started ignoring her a few days ago and he was clingy, like they got in fights when she said she had to go hang out with friends, or my personal favorite, he let her fall asleep over Skype calls and listened to her sleep. When I tried confronying him, he blocked me, but I still have a couple friends that do have access to his profile and want to in sorts get him to apologise and explain himself. I'll probably get the "You have to let it go" tips, but any suggestions.

Also, he lives halfway across the country, so I can't go to his doorstep to get in contact.

What I'd like to do is establish a way of communication where he can't just block me.

 

"Internet boyfriend?" So they hadn't even met yet? That's not a relationship.

 

Anyway - if she's done with him who cares? Stop stalking her ex. Get your own life.