Seeing girl more experienced than me

[bimjeam007]

I started seeing this girl recently and things seem to be going pretty well. We haven't had sex yet but we have made out quite a lot as well as some mild foreplay at times.

 

I imagine we'll have sex soon enough, but I'm a little uneasy about it as she seems way more experienced than me. I could probably count on two hands the amount of times I've had sex (and a lot of it has been with different girls), and at 29 years old it's not something I feel comfortable bringing up.

 

I do feel a lot more confident than I used to be... but part of me wants to let this girl know beforehand, rather than get into bed with her and make a fool out of myself if she wants me to give her oral or rub her clitoris (I've ejaculated prematurely a few times in the past also).

 

Sometimes she'll ask me over text what I would do to her in bed, and I've been a bit unsure what to say, because I worry that I wouldn't be that great in real life.

 

She seems quite quiet and shy herself which makes me feel like I'd be fairly comfortable telling her. But I have no idea how to bring it up? What would I say?

 

Also, I'd prefer to do it over text, because we both live in shared apartments and I wouldn't want any of our housemates to overhear...

[Wiseman2]

Absolutely don't bring up your past experience. Whether your experience is vast or not, it's creepy to talk to women in any manner whatsoever about who you've had sex with or how many or whatever.

 

Relax, let her lead anyway. If you get awkward say "tell me what you like" or similar. Listen, all creatures figure this out by instinct and so can you, right? Unless there's a how-to youtube for rabbits?

 

Focus on the romance etc and worry about setting the stage, atmosphere, etc. She's not judging a sports competition or reviewing a resume. She's looking for a guy she likes.

part of me wants to let this girl know beforehand, rather than get into bed with her and make a fool out of myself

[bimjeam007]

Absolutely don't bring up your past experience. Whether your experience is vast or not, it's creepy to talk to women in any manner whatsoever about who you've had sex with or how many or whatever.

 

Relax, let her lead anyway. If you get awkward say "tell me what you like" or similar. Listen, all creatures figure this out by instinct and so can you, right? Unless there's a how-to youtube for rabbits?

 

Focus on the romance etc and worry about setting the stage, atmosphere, etc. She's not judging a sports competition or reviewing a resume. She's looking for a guy she likes.

 

Thanks, I was thinking of taking a similar approach and letting her guide me. I suppose all girls are different afterall... that's my experience anyway, because out of the two girls I've given oral to, the first one loved it and the second one felt nothing... and I'm pretty sure I wasn't doing anything different.

 

Instinct seems to have worked out okay for me so far so hopefully it can work here too.

 

I just get the impression a lot of girls prefer it when a man takes control rather than them having to guide me

[rosecolored108]

Women like different things, at different times. Some like to be in control...others like to take control, and that can change at times too.

 

These things SHOULD occur naturally...agree to just go by feeling and instinct. You will get used to each other and will find out what each other like/don't like.

[SherrySher]

I don't think anyone is super experienced unless you're a porn star. As long as you have two people who genuinely like and care about each other and are attracted to each other things should be great.

It should be natural and what seems to make sex really explosive, is having a really strong connection. It really is a lot more in the mind, rather than the physical aspects of it. That's why someone could be with a person who was really experienced, but if they don't really like them, the sex will still be meh.

So try to not worry too much, if she really likes you and you really like her, then things will be more than fine.

[jonny15]

I think you letting her guide you is a good thing. Don't tell her about your experience just let it happen. That is what I would do.

[browser]

Rubbing a clit or even inserting a penis and moving your hips back and forth isn't rocket science, just learn on the fly. Two things that beginners seem to get wrong, they go too fast and they're too rough.

 

Then again I recall my first experience was with a girl who had lots of experience. She knew I was a virgin and really got into teaching me the ropes.

 

So you gotta know your audience.