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Found bikini photos from a high school crush in his laptop.

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I've been dating a long distance relationship for 2 years and we finally decided to move in together last month, everything was good between us until for mere curiosity I asked if I could take a look at his photo album in his laptop, there was just photos of us but then there was 3 photos of the same girl wearing a bikini (Facebook photos) when I asked him who she was he looked very nervious and said he didn't knew her, that she was just a girl, I kept asking until he confessed she was a girl he went to high school with and he thought she was hot and that at one point he searched her Facebook and the photos got him horny and used them for masturbation material and forgot to delete them. We went to his history, and there was another girls Facebook profile, he said she was a former crush he have told me about before, he tried to date her but she just ignored him and then started dating someone else, he had told me she was to get married soon, but he said he heard her engagement ended suddenly and he just went to check her profile. And that's when he decided to search this other girls profile apparently those two girls are best friends. I asked him to show his phone photo album and he went on it and deleted something before he could let me see it, he said the same photos were on his phone and he freaked out because he thought he had deleted them. He knows he did wrong by doing that and forgetting to delete it; he confessed he have done stuff like that a couple of times where he have used photos of girls he used to know to masturbate. He apologized and says that won't happen again and asures that there's no other reason behind those pictures, and he's not interested in this former crush that went single again.

I feel really sadden because somehow I feel he cheated on me, even if it was just photos, we were online dating at that point and he had photos of me but decided to look at a girl he knows instead, I really don't care about porn but using photos of high school crushes is more personal I think..I'm just afraid of what could happen in a future if I decided to go on with this, he could end up cheating on me. I'm having conflicted thoughts about what should I do if I should give him another chance or just ask him to go back to his place.

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Wiseman2 Grand Master

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Sorry to hear this but why did you start "getting curious" and policing and admonishing him? He told you about the photos and what the purpose was. It's not cheating to look at girls' pics.

 

Just wondering where all the trust issues are coming from and what's the problem in the relationship? Were you cheated on by an ex? How long has he lived with you? Do you support him or is there a bunch of reasons you resent him, humiliate him and don't trust him?

 

Ask him to move out, because if you think girl's old pics are 'cheating', this will never work. Why be a parole officer, checking up on him constantly? Who wants to live like that? It's not a partnership with no trust and chronic policing. we finally decided to move in together last month, everything was good between us until for mere curiosity I asked if I could take a look at his photo album. he have used photos of girls he used to know to masturbate.I should give him another chance or just ask him to go back to his place.

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Longview01 Enthusiast

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I'm not gonna lie, i've masturbated over loads of girls i've met over the years

 

I'm pretty sure its normal

 

That's true, I asked if he wanted to look at my phone or laptop and he said he didn't wanted to, I guess he don't really care if I cheat on him even if I'm not...

 

So you judge your relationship on how insecure the other person? Most people would be happy that they were trusted

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Seraphim Grand Master

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That's true, I asked if he wanted to look at my phone or laptop and he said he didn't wanted to, I guess he don't really care if I cheat on him even if I'm not...

 

Just because you invade someone does not mean they can't cheat and if you have to invade them to feel secure you have exactly, nothing.

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j.man Grand Master

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That's true, I asked if he wanted to look at my phone or laptop and he said he didn't wanted to, I guess he don't really care if I cheat on him even if I'm not...
You've got issues you should look into.

 

It's not called "not caring if you cheat on him or not." It's a little thing called trust. Relationships kinda depend on it.

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Ms Darcy Mentor

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Agree. The pics invasion was a symptom, not the problem itself.

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This is the best part of this thread. Why are the girls cuter than the guy?

 

Anyway, I would advise the OP to end this relationship. I can't even rationalize with women who have issues with men masturbating to pictures of other women. Just end it and relieve yourself of the torture.

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I get that your issue is him wanking to girls that he knows not that he is wanking it to nudes itself. It's the difference between me flicking it to randoms online and flicking it to my fiances brother. The solution is simple- don't snoop; some thing are best left secret. Focus on having a great and honest sex life. Maybe talk about girls he finds attractive while you are having it and guys you find attractive as well. Spice things up.

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