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This girls say's she likes me but scared of being in a Relationship

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So this is girl I used to hang with in the work place couple of years ago. I left that work place and she stayed on and from there we didn't talk what so ever. To be specific she ignored me. We used to kiss and hold hands and do all usually 2nd base stuff but nothing more. Any way before I left the work place she got in to a relationship with another guy and was dating for a while and recently it ended. As I left I got rid of her contacts and all the social media stuff, because she moved on and I wanted to do the same. But I did still have her contact on Snapchat. And obviously we both look at each others stories, but never replied.

 

Anyway recently I posted a bomb ass story and she replied, by dropping some hints of a relationship and I replied back. So from there on we did talk a bit, but none of us wanted to come off as desperate so kept it low-key. So finally got some balls and told her I still like her, from there on she was dropping hints of she liking me but also bit hesitant, as she told me she is scared to get into another relationship as the last one hurt her bad. I told not to worry because I'm different and I will never hurt her and all that jazz cos truth is I never been with a since our little thing couple of years ago, and I did still have feelings for her. I also told her I will change your opinion on relationship and she told me that I can try.

 

Now I want to surprise her by taking her somewhere nice, I did ask her and she didn't say no and didn't say yes either. All she said was she don't know. I asked her to tell me the reason and got nothing back. It seems like obviously I'm the only one trying to talk to her, therefore don't wanna come off as desperate or don't wanna give up on her either. What should I do? Please help

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Billie28 Mentor

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She didn't want a relationship with you a couple of years ago and now she is on the rebound looking for attention. Only.

I'm sorry but I think you need to forget this one.

You have already asked her out and she didn't jump at it. She's only wanting your online attention. Stop giving her it.

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Wiseman2 Grand Master

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Either you ask her on a date...or you don't. She may want a friendzoner to hold her hand through her latest breakup. if you don't ask her out, you are a male girlfriend/shoulder to cry on.

 

Skip the "I'll never hurt you, etc". rap, it's nonsense. Women get a little nauseated from those type of desperate lines.

 

You asked out, were you specific? time date place etc? Skip the "it's a surprise" junk. Now lay back on contact COMPLETELY until she contacts you, then ask ONCE more. If she's vague, busy, etc. Go no contact and delete and block her.

So from there on we did talk a bit, but none of us wanted to come off as desperate so kept it low-key. she is scared to get into another relationship as the last one hurt her bad. I want to surprise her by taking her somewhere nice, I did ask her and she didn't say no and didn't say yes either.
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Sportster2005 Mentor

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So this is girl I used to hang with in the work place couple of years ago. I left that work place and she stayed on and from there we didn't talk what so ever. To be specific she ignored me. We used to kiss and hold hands and do all usually 2nd base stuff but nothing more. Any way before I left the work place she got in to a relationship with another guy and was dating for a while and recently it ended. As I left I got rid of her contacts and all the social media stuff, because she moved on and I wanted to do the same. But I did still have her contact on Snapchat. And obviously we both look at each others stories, but never replied.

 

Anyway recently I posted a bomb ass story and she replied, by dropping some hints of a relationship and I replied back. So from there on we did talk a bit, but none of us wanted to come off as desperate so kept it low-key. So finally got some balls and told her I still like her, from there on she was dropping hints of she liking me but also bit hesitant, as she told me she is scared to get into another relationship as the last one hurt her bad. I told not to worry because I'm different and I will never hurt her and all that jazz cos truth is I never been with a since our little thing couple of years ago, and I did still have feelings for her. I also told her I will change your opinion on relationship and she told me that I can try.

 

Now I want to surprise her by taking her somewhere nice, I did ask her and she didn't say no and didn't say yes either. All she said was she don't know. I asked her to tell me the reason and got nothing back. It seems like obviously I'm the only one trying to talk to her, therefore don't wanna come off as desperate or don't wanna give up on her either. What should I do? Please help

 

She accepted your challenge to change her mind, interesting. I'm betting against you. And by being nice and pursuing her, you're harming your chances, not making them better. Stay in contact if you wish. But don't make any serious move until SHE changes her mind. You can't change it for her.

 

In the future demonstrate you like them. A lot of women learn after a while that talk is cheap. Even if you mean it, back it up with action. Frankly I wouldn't spend a lot of effort on someone who is basically telling me they aren't emotionally available. It's not likely going to end well.

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Sportster2005 Mentor

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Before this reply I already asked "Lets meet up.. When are you free?" Probably hurt my chances in that case

From what I'm hearing, lay off a bit and let her decide

 

Good idea. And when you want to ask a woman out, it's best to have a clear idea of what you want to do, and when. It shows initiative. You can also gain very valuable information from her response. If she says yes, you're in. If she says too busy, but doesn't reschedule, you're out. Usually anything but yes, is a no.

 

Take your time and relax. If she's interested you'll know soon enough.

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Coldarmy13 Rising Star

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My last ex had only gotten out of a relationship a few months before we met. She said she wasn't interested in a relationship, flat out. I agreed. We continued meeting up, having fun as "exclusive fwb". After about 5 months she wanted us to be official.

 

Just saying, if a girl flat out tells you she doesn't want a relationship, take her at her word. Never hope or expect one eventually. Never pressure her later on, since she was very honest about her intentions. In a way that makes things way simpler anyway, only thinking about having fun and getting to know one another. It will happen naturally and organically on her end if she changes her mind.

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