How does he really feel about me?

[artsygirl]

My unhealthy 'relationship' with my ex (whatever sort of relationship it was, we were never official or anything, just this weird fling) ended just over a year ago now. We've moved on, we've both seen new people since and he's in an obscure open relationship right now which I don't really want anything to do with because I find it all a bit strange and confusing.

It's just whenever it comes to me he acts up. He can't seem to stand the thought of me with other people and he'll ask me questions about people I'm seeing and about my sex life with them. I don't tell him, it's none of his business and I certainly don't ask him questions about his. I was seeing someone he knew and he found out about it, commenting to his close friend that he felt like he'd been 'stabbed in the heart'. If I'm around him for extended periods of time he'll get really agitated and go away and call his girlfriend and whenever he talks about me to his friends they have to remind him he's in a relationship. They have told me this themselves. My friends who know him think there's more to it but I wanted an impartial opinion. It's just whenever we're in the same place (like at a party or on a nightout) there is some sort of issue. He's told me himself he's still very much attracted to me and that it gets to a point where he's so tempted to be with me. I just want to know what he feels, I don't have any intention to be with him.

[gebaird]

Is there a way for you to avoid him? I don't think you really can know what he's feeling without spending time with him, which doesn't seem like the healthiest option. You just have to make a decision to live your life regardless of what he is feeling or doing.

[Wiseman2]

It seems you are hoping that he still has a thing for you, because you have a thing for him. You also mentioned that you believed he was doing this at a party when he has a gf and 'flirting with you'.

 

Perhaps you never wanted the fwb to be over? Yes he's attracted and sure if you believe his rubbish, he'll jump in the sack again, why not..it worked before. Why do you bother discussing your dating and sex life with him in this weird flirt dance? Why are you around him for "extended periods"?

 

Why not focus on the guys you are dating rather than carry on perpetually with this fwb behind their backs? Either make it happen with him or cut the cord.

he'll ask me questions about people I'm seeing and about my sex life with them. I was seeing someone he knew and he found out about it, commenting to his close friend that he felt like he'd been 'stabbed in the heart'.I'm around him for extended periods of time he'll get really agitated and go away and call his girlfriend

[JaggerJim]

You should stop hanging out at the same places as him, hoping that he will fall back in love with you. It's not going to happen. If you avoid him, it will be less painful to see him with other woman.

[ThatwasThen]

We've moved on, we've both seen new people

Au Contraire. It appears that neither of you have moved on even if you are seeing new people.

 

Why do you go where he will be and why are you still in contact with him? Time to cut the cord that keeps you both strangled up in one another.

[HeartGoesOn]

I just want to know what he feels, I don't have any intention to be with him.

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This is quite the contradiction, and you're only fooling yourself. The longer you continue this nonsense, the longer it will take to recover. Your choice...