Is he flirting with me or is it just in my head?

[Chelsea01party]

Hi, I work for a retail store in England and ever since I started working there, there is a guy who has caught my eye since I first saw him. He's a security guard at the store and I work on checkouts. When we first met he winked at me and at first I thought it was just a friendly wink and he just wanted to help me settle in by being nice but then he started to stare at me alot and smile alot at me too. I also feel like he finds ways to speak to me and to get close to me. He winks at me all the time now and we have inside jokes between us and he asked me when I would be working next. We always have a laugh with eachother and it feels like we've known each other for ages. Yesterday I was called in for overtime as they were understaffed so I accepted the shift and once I arrived his face lit up as if he was really happy to see me and also I don't think he was expecting me because I told him that I only work on Saturdays. I think he is flirting with me but I'm so insecure when it comes to boys because of the past so I don't wanna believe he's flirting with me if he's not and develop unnecessary feelings for him and make work awkward. I want to be sure before I reciprocate any flirtatious behaviour because I think he's really attractive.

[Hollyj]

I would think that he would ask you out if he were interested. Maybe, he has a wife or GF, and that is why he has not proceeded. Do you know anything else about this guy?

[Wiseman2]

Why? A lot of people flirt, it doesn't mean anything. It's simple, just don't develop any feelings unless there's a reason to. You aren't dating so what do you men "develop feelings"?

I don't wanna believe he's flirting with me if he's not and develop unnecessary feelings for him and make work awkward.

[CurlyQSue]

well nothing is more sure than actually asking. He could just a be a really friendly guy but he could always really enjoy being around you. Don't get TOO into it....just enjoy what it is and if you want more....try to initiate more. Ask him to hang out or hang out with him and other employees so it isn't such a pressured situation? or just continue on this road until he makes a move.....but will he?

[greta96]

Why not strike up a friendly conversation with him, and see where it goes? You don't need to flirt, people can have pleasant conversations without a romance in mind, especially when they work together. Just ask him about his day, hobbies, etc, and see what he has to say, if a significant other gets mentioned, and who knows, if he is interested and available he may even ask you out. The key is to be friendly.