??? What is happening- ex asked me to work with him

[Nataliebemke64]

So my ex and I have been broken up for about 8 months. Our relationship was amazing and he said that he wanted a long-lasting relationship with me, possibly forever. However things were tough for me at the time and our relationship became an emotional roller coaster and he broke up with me so I could get a better sense of self. We talked once after the break up and we both apologized for not trying harder while we were together. We talked here and there afterwards, but nothing serious and I dated a guy since then (a few months ago he told me he never saw anyone after me- I don't know if he has since). I lost my virginity to him and I have some sort of attachment to him, so I know I'll always have feelings for him. I really like art and he really likes poetry, and when we were together we were going to collaborate (he writes a poem, I draw something for it) but it never got finished before he dumped me. Last night he asked me if I wanted to work on it again with him, for a poem he wrote several months ago, because we never got to before. Is he trying to mend a relationship, sleep with me again, or become platonic friends (we were never friends before, we immediately jumped into a relationship)?

[gebaird]

It's hard to say what he wants at this point, but what do YOU want?

[CurlyQSue]

yeah you can't really tell what he wants. I wouldn't over think it too much and you decide what you think you can handle. What if he does want to get back together? What if he just wants to be friends? What would you be ok with? Do what you are comfortable with and just be sure you understand what his intentions are.

[Wiseman2]

unfortunately if you have to ask, the answer is he's not reconciling but may be interested in friends or fwb.

 

It's unwise to get back involved, because either of your dating ventures didn't pan out (not surprisingly).

 

As you can see the relationship "was a roller coaster", "he dumped you" and your hanging on prevented you from moving on. Decide what you want... to be strung along or to cut contact and find someone you can move forward with.

our relationship became an emotional roller coaster and he broke up with m. I dated a guy since then. Last night he asked me if I wanted to work on it again with him, for a poem he wrote several months ago, because we never got to before. Is he trying to mend a relationship, sleep with me again, or become platonic friends