Love addiction

[reservedm]

I recently diagnosed myself as a Love addict. I tend to love too much, care too much. It's so excessive or maybe not to the right person(s). Whatever I do, I am 9 of 10 passionate about - be it work, school, party or business. I mean absolutely almost everything.

 

I recently found myself in another dangerous emotional attachment amongst other past danger with dating. I have been dating this Girl I meant 5months ago. She kept sex from me for the first 2.5 months. I did like her character. She spoke the right words and we connected. She seem like the ideal "woman". we spent most time together.

 

I attempted to move into the next step of a relationship and she was hesitant. We quite discussed about it and she said - I am not ready because I can't give anyone all of me now. It would be selfish to commit and not give 100%.

 

I went further to ask if she was seeing other people and sexually active with anyone else. Her response was - Not really, I go on dates sometimes. And I was the only one she was sexually actively with.

 

A few week down the line, I was at her house - we had drinks with her roommate and best friend. Before the night was over she went to drop off her best friend. In the time frame, Her roommate was on the phone thinking I already fell asleep. Roommate was having a gossip session with someone on the phone. Speaking that the girl I was dating wasn't taking me serious and she had other side dude that comes to the house some nights.

 

Button-line, I was on the top list of a few guys.

 

Problem - Knowing this has been making me feel quite heavy hearted sometimes. I feel as though that she lied about been sexually active with only me (Most Girls would). I can't seem to keep my emotions out of things that done need it. ( Even when I F&&ok with H&es).

 

At this moment I am only sexually active with her and I am willing to enjoy the fun because I am young (25) but yet quite very successful at a young age.

 

How do I deal with this addiction because it has been causing more harm than good to me. Everyone that's close to me says this. - He falls in love too much and fast

 

I am at my prime and should really enjoy life

[Clio]

Diagnosing yourself is never a good idea. If you feel you might have a problem then you need to seek professional help. It sounds like you can afford it. However, assigning yourself a label and adopting a passive/victim approach is not the way to go. This girl blatantly lied to your face when you asked her a straight question. That's a pretty clear deal-breaker. And no, a decent girl wouldn't. Since you have no problem falling in love, then I 'd say on to the next....

[Andrina]

There's nothing wrong with being passionate about someone or caring deeply. The issue is that you need to spot red flags and know your deal breakers and must-haves. When a woman you're dating has different dating/life goals, and if she has deal breakers or lacks must-haves, then you end the relationship right there and then. This frees you to keep dating others so you can find one who matches you in all of the major ways.

 

Even though your brain tells you to just enjoy fun sex with someone who doesn't want a commitment, your heart is telling you this isn't right for you. Be true to yourself. Never settle. Your body is a gift to give to someone special, and it's not the woman you're with at the moment. Keep sifting through the sand until you find the treasure. It can be frustrating and time consuming, but well worth the effort.

[reservedm]

There's nothing wrong with being passionate about someone or caring deeply. The issue is that you need to spot red flags and know your deal breakers and must-haves. When a woman you're dating has different dating/life goals, and if she has deal breakers or lacks must-haves, then you end the relationship right there and then. This frees you to keep dating others so you can find one who matches you in all of the major ways.

 

Even though your brain tells you to just enjoy fun sex with someone who doesn't want a commitment, your heart is telling you this isn't right for you. Be true to yourself. Never settle. Your body is a gift to give to someone special, and it's not the woman you're with at the moment. Keep sifting through the sand until you find the treasure. It can be frustrating and time consuming, but well worth the effort.

 

True word! I based on our last conversation between me and her. I feel it clear to me that I can date others. But I can't throw at her face. Good idea ?

[reservedm]

Diagnosing yourself is never a good idea. If you feel you might have a problem then you need to seek professional help. It sounds like you can afford it. However, assigning yourself a label and adopting a passive/victim approach is not the way to go. This girl blatantly lied to your face when you asked her a straight question. That's a pretty clear deal-breaker. And no, a decent girl wouldn't. Since you have no problem falling in love, then I 'd say on to the next....

 

You are right I shouldn't diagnosis myself. I have thought of seeking a professional. I will do that since it may provide me a lasting solution.

[reservedm]

More so, I had broke up the dating relationship with her over text(wrong move). But I later spoke to her that I was joking. I was really upset but on second note, I was like - Let's me have the fun too and do other things with the intent to end it anytime I want.

[Andrina]

True word! I based on our last conversation between me and her. I feel it clear to me that I can date others. But I can't throw at her face. Good idea ?

 

If you're not in a committed relationship, then yes, you can date others and no, you don't speak of it to any of them unless they point blank ask. If they ask and get upset, then you can ask if they want to be exclusive. If they do and you want the same, then that's the plan. If they don't want to be exclusive, it's none of their business what you do. You might find that jumping from woman to woman ends up being a shallow life. When you feel empty, you might decide to go for a long term relationship with a woman who is worthy of you.

[reservedm]

If you're not in a committed relationship, then yes, you can date others and no, you don't speak of it to any of them unless they point blank ask. If they ask and get upset, then you can ask if they want to be exclusive. If they do and you want the same, then that's the plan. If they don't want to be exclusive, it's none of their business what you do. You might find that jumping from woman to woman ends up being a shallow life. When you feel empty, you might decide to go for a long term relationship with a woman who is worthy of you.

 

That's what I decided to do. In the process heal and learn how to channel my emotions properly.

 

City where I stay, finding a good lady in my age range looking for serious committed relationship is like asking for a unicorn for Christmas.

[reservedm]

They hard part is i am a young man - 25yrs old. Own my house and drive a luxury car. They are always pretending to be something else when I meet them.

[Ms Darcy]

The man who diagnoses himself has a fool for a doctor.

[SooSad33]

Dont think you two are that compatible....you're going down one road.. she's on another.

 

I can't see this sort of thing working out for you.. stop investing in her.

 

Find a woman who wants just ONE man.. and a 'real' relationship. I think that's what you need.

 

And if you find yourself investing too much too fast ( you could be an empath).. yes, that's difficult.

 

Try to lower your expectations... work on learning how not to jump in with both feet.. take things with stride.

[reservedm]

Dont think you two are that compatible....you're going down one road.. she's on another.

 

I can't see this sort of thing working out for you.. stop investing in her.

 

Find a woman who wants just ONE man.. and a 'real' relationship. I think that's what you need.

 

And if you find yourself investing too much too fast ( you could be an empath).. yes, that's difficult.

 

Try to lower your expectations... work on learning how not to jump in with both feet.. take things with stride.

 

Thank you. Rationally speaking I may get myself hurt.