He cancelled on me last minute. How should i respond?

[sd95]

Batya, remember he *asked* if they could reschedule the time. Which *does* show respect for her time.

 

If she didn't want to or felt it would be an inconvenience, she should have told him so.

 

Not said it was fine, and then complain to us later she felt disrespected.

 

Had he not liked her much, he could have easily cancelled altogether. He did not, he asked to push the time up.

 

OP is making a mountain out of a molehill, over-thinking this.

 

Again we can agree to disagree.

 

 

 

Yeah not sure why the OP is upset since a new time was offered. The girl who cancelled on me today offered no new time or date which means it's a 99% chance we will never meet. lol

[Mira223]

Mira, franky I am confused as to why you feel disappointed or disrespected?

 

He did NOT cancel last minute. In fact, he did not cancel at all.

 

He simply wanted to reschedule/move the "time" of the date ....because he needed to help his mom for a bit first.

 

I would understsnd your reaction, if he actually did cancel and made no attempt to reschedule.

 

But again, he did not cancel, just wanted to move the time to meet to a bit later that same day, so he could help his mom.

 

No disrespect, but you sound a bit rigid, and maybe even a bit distrustful. Try and be a bit more open-minded and flexible, it will serve you much better going forward. JMO of course, works well for me.

 

That doesn't mean tolerating BS or when someone does actually cancel last minute or flakes, but hell if someone needs to move the time to help a friend or family member or even if they're running late, and they contact you letting you know, chill out and try to not read so much into it.

 

Yes I do think you are over-reacting.

 

You are absolutely right. I think i was just a bit disappointed because I wanted to see him and was all ready to go whenhe suddenly cancelled. But now I can see clearly that he was really sorry for this. He even sent me a message later on telling me how bad it feels to not be able to see me today.

[Batya33]

You are absolutely right. I think i was just a bit disappointed because I wanted to see him and was all ready to go whenhe suddenly cancelled. But now I can see clearly that he was really sorry for this. He even sent me a message later on telling me how bad it feels to not be able to see me today.

. What I would do next time is tell him if you have a tight schedule that day so he knows in advance in case something comes up.

[Batya33]

Batya, remember he *asked* if they could reschedule the time. Which *does* show respect for her time.

 

If she didn't want to or felt it would be an inconvenience, she should have told him so.

 

Not said it was fine, and then complain to us later she felt disrespected.

 

Had he not liked her much, he could have easily cancelled altogether. He did not, he asked to push the time up.

 

OP is making a mountain out of a molehill, over-thinking this.

 

Again we can agree to disagree.

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We agree completely on the basics.

[BrokenGator]

Not only do I think you're over reacting, you honestly sound like a spoiled brat. If I knew that you refused to reschedule for a few hours later because you got upset I had to help my mom out with something, I would no longer date you.