Send ex flowers on her birthday?

[Steve4456]

-4 year relationship

-I got dumped

-No contact for 6 months

-I broke it after breadcrumbs

-She finally spoke to me on the phone (closure kinda convo)

-Said she's talking to someone else now

-Told her I want her back

-She said too much damage was done and she won't give us a chance

-She hasn't responded since and blocked me

-2 weeks have now passed

 

Obviously there is no chance of things being fixed at this moment. She said no, rubbed in how happy she is without me and blocked me. She didn't even wish me happy birthday. Only "hope" I've had was I'd get notifications of her reading my previous emails to her

 

I still love her. I know it's time to move on now. But if there is a slight chance to fix things I'll take it. Which brings me to my question

 

Her birthday is coming up. Every year I would send her flowers on her birthday. Do I do it this year? The fact she didn't wish me on my birthday was expected so it's not a pride or ego thing for me. But Will sending her flowers help my chances in one day getting her to reach out? or will it do the opposite? Will it be a thoughtful sweet gesture or make me look desperate?

 

Any of you ladies out there ever want to talk to your ex after getting birthday flowers?

 

Thanks in advance for the help!

[gebaird]

Flowers in the right situation can make a woman very happy; in this situation I think it will come across as needy, stalker-ish behavior.

[Snny]

But Will sending her flowers help my chances in one day getting her to reach out?

She has a boyfriend and has now blocked you. She has given you a very firm "no" and "don't bother me anymore." These are clues to not send her anything.

 

Be honest- would you be ok with dating a new girlfriend and she received flowers from her ex boyfriend?

 

You need to move on.

 

Any of you ladies out there ever want to talk to your ex after getting birthday flowers?

I would hope that my new boyfriend would kick my ex's ass if I were in this situation.

[boltnrun]

My ex bugged me on my birthday this year. All I thought was "will you just LEAVE ME ALONE??!!" I wanted nothing to do with him.

 

I finally just blocked him because even though I was short and borderline rude to him he wouldn't give up.

 

Another ex messaged me THIRTEEN times. I didn't respond to any of them except the thirteenth one, to tell him to leave me alone.

 

When an ex blocks you and tells you they're "talking to" someone else, that doesn't mean "please send me flowers on my birthday".

 

And no, that would not get her to thinking about reaching out or getting back together.

 

Sorry, but if relationships were that easy to repair no one would ever stay broken up.

 

So, my vote is no.

[annie24]

No - do not send flowers. I was annoyed when an ex sent flowers to me on V-day. It was just really not welcome, considering I had told him I was unsure about him. It's time to forget about her and move on.

[Capricorn3]

Man, I would be so mad if an ex did that to me. Dude, she dumped you. She blocked you. She's seeing someone else. She told you too much damage is done. She has not responded since. Isn't that clear enough for you?? Seriously? You think sending flowers will change her mind? If anything, after all the above, I can guarantee you it will have the opposite effect.

 

Time to learn to accept that is is over and move on with your life. She is NOT interested in coming back to you. Her message is loud and clear. You need to "get it".

[Reflections11]

Sending this girl flowers is obviously a really terrible idea.

 

If there is any sliver of getting this girl back at all, it would be by not pursuing her at all, and by turning the other direction, leaving her alone for a very long time, and getting the rest of your life good.

[No1]

If you wanted her to be very mad at you, then tell the guy she is dating how much of a jerk you are then totally do it. Nothing would ruin her birthday except for a selfish act like yours by sending her birthday flowers.. hey, include a note saying "I love you, I miss you so much and I want you back" Im quite sure she will roll her eyes before throwing them in the trash or asking the closest person if they want flowers...

Totally do it.. waste your money.

[Doc Blaze]

-4 year relationship

-I got dumped

-No contact for 6 months

-I broke it after breadcrumbs

-She finally spoke to me on the phone (closure kinda convo)

-Said she's talking to someone else now

-Told her I want her back

-She said too much damage was done and she won't give us a chance

-She hasn't responded since and blocked me

-2 weeks have now passed

 

Obviously there is no chance of things being fixed at this moment. She said no, rubbed in how happy she is without me and blocked me. She didn't even wish me happy birthday. Only "hope" I've had was I'd get notifications of her reading my previous emails to her

 

I still love her. I know it's time to move on now. But if there is a slight chance to fix things I'll take it. Which brings me to my question

 

Her birthday is coming up. Every year I would send her flowers on her birthday. Do I do it this year? The fact she didn't wish me on my birthday was expected so it's not a pride or ego thing for me. But Will sending her flowers help my chances in one day getting her to reach out? or will it do the opposite? Will it be a thoughtful sweet gesture or make me look desperate?

 

Any of you ladies out there ever want to talk to your ex after getting birthday flowers?

 

Thanks in advance for the help!

 

 

she has gone out of her way to ignore you

she is seeing someone else

she said there is no chance of fixing things...

 

 

so ask yourself if flowers would really do anything...I am going to say 100 percent 100. That will probably make you look even worse.

[rosecolored108]

NO NO NO NO NO.

 

Do not send the flowers. It WILL make you look desperate. She has made it clear she is moving on. And if she goes back on that decision, that has to be her idea.

 

You can't push her to do it. And flowers make you look needy and desperate. Women want to get flowers from men they are interested in or are dating/married to...not an ex who they dumped.