I have a date tomorrow and was wondering should I go through with it

[sd95]

I met her on OKC and we been getting along well over the phone and texting for the last week or so. So I suggested we meet tomorrow evening and she agreed to the location and time. Now I noticed I been the one contacting her 1st the past few days and she did respond back. I also was the one who said Merry Christmas first this morning.

 

Now when I wake up tomorrow should I be contacting her first again in regards to us meeting? Should I wait to her from her and then follow up with the plans we set for the date? I just don't feel the need to contact first tomorrow.

 

I just need to feel that someone is looking forward to meeting me so the fact that I said merry christmas first today I feel that she should be contacting me tomorrow.

 

I would really prefer to talk on the phone tonight about tomorrow but I know with today being christmas that is not possible.

 

 

 

 

Agree or Disagree?

[IAmFCA]

You asked her out so you take the lead for setting a plan. Your invitation was partial - date, time but no activity. Its up to you to finish the job.

[mustlovedogs]

Agreed. At this point, before even meeting, no need to try and balance out the initiating.

[Scoe141]

Yea, there needs to be balance, but any judgement at this point may be premature. There may be a myriad of factors precluding her from contacting you first. i.e. she doesn't know you, family obligations etc etc.

 

That being said, go out on the date and take it from there. If you're not feeling that it's being reciprocated, then it's probably an indication she isn't interested.

 

Good luck.

[sd95]

Yea, there needs to be balance, but any judgement at this point may be premature. There may be a myriad of factors precluding her from contacting you first. i.e. she doesn't know you, family obligations etc etc.

 

That being said, go out on the date and take it from there. If you're not feeling that it's being reciprocated, then it's probably an indication she isn't interested.

 

Good luck.

 

 

Initially it was going to be after the holidays but then we got back on the topic and we both found out we were off tomorrow and agreed to meet. So I will go along with it

[Ms Darcy]

It's Christmas. She's busy with friends/family. You should be too.

 

Just reach out tomorrow regarding date details.

[fabact]

contact her to finish up the plan to get together.

[notalady]

I for one don't like to text much before meeting in person, in fact other than talking about the plan itself, less (or none) is better. Because you don't really know if there's chemist until you've met. That might be true for her too.

 

Yes firm up the plans if the plans were already in place. Other than that, just wait and see how it goes in person.

[Clio]

I just need to feel that someone is looking forward to meeting me so the fact that I said merry christmas first today I feel that she should be contacting me tomorrow.

 

She is not a mind reader. She doesn't know how you feel nor how you think nor what you expect. You don't know each other. You may not like her when you meet. Placing such expectations on her at this stage is unrealistic and probably more to do with Christmas blues than with her. From what you wrote the pattern so far has been you initiating and her responding so for all you know she has been just following your lead. Changing the pattern just before the date and expecting her to read your mind sounds self-sabotaging. Given your description of the situation, your mind seeking to interpret not contacting you tomorrow first as not looking forward to meet sounds like self-sabotage.

[sd95]

well she contacted me first today and cancelled lol

 

So of course I listened to the reason about her having to pick up her dad and some other crap and talked on the phone for 30 mins

 

But I have made the decision to move on because I don't do same day cancellations.

[sd95]

I for one don't like to text much before meeting in person, in fact other than talking about the plan itself, less (or none) is better. Because you don't really know if there's chemist until you've met. That might be true for her too.

 

Yes firm up the plans if the plans were already in place. Other than that, just wait and see how it goes in person.

 

 

I always wanted to have one phone conversation to determine if I want to take time to go meet someone. And that is to really confirm if the person is real in the picture and not someone playing games.

[notalady]

well she contacted me first today and cancelled lol

 

So of course I listened to the reason about her having to pick up her dad and some other crap and talked on the phone for 30 mins

 

But I have made the decision to move on because I don't do same day cancellations.

 

That's fair enough. Sounds like excuses.

[sd95]

That's fair enough. Sounds like excuses.

 

And then tells me she is taking a 3 hour drive with a male friend to pick up her dad

 

 

I was like......u cancel and then tell me some nonsense like that? lol