This Girl...

[1guy444]

This is soooo complicated. no kidding. I know this cute girl from high school, and one of my closest friends had (and still has) a crush on her. So I literally just broke the news to her, and she seemed unnerved about it. the next afternoon she started interrogating and nagging me, asking me who i liked. Now we're between friends and enemies, cheerily insulting and teasing each other in our spare time. I didn't really notice that i spent every hour i had with her until one of my friends asked if we were dating. I don't know what the heck to do, i feel pretty comfortable with her but i'm not sure i want to date. Also it would literally kill

my friend that has an intense crush on her. so does it mean that she likes me and i should date her? or should i stop and give my friend the chance?

[Wiseman2]

Why cut in? Does he want to do anything about it like date her? What's the point of telling her for him?

[Scoe141]

There's an old saying... bros before toes. Actually it's something else. But anyway, I would tell your friend before the girl.

 

Say something like,

 

"Hey man, let me holler at you for a minute. I'm a bit torn here. I'm developing a crush on _____ but I don't want it to interfere with our friendship because at this point it means more to me. I may be interested in pursuing things with her, but out of respect for our friendship I wanted to see what your thoughts were on the matter."

 

If he's not comfortable with it, then you'll find another woman.

 

It also shows your loyalty to him, and is something I feel would go a long way.

 

Good luck.

[Andrina]

Treat people like you want to be treated and you can never go wrong. If you wouldn't want a friend swooping in and going for a girl you had a crush on, don't do that to him. In the future, I'd also not get involved by telling someone what another is feeling. You should never speak for someone else, even if they ask. Your friend needs to get a spine and suss her out himself.

[catfeeder]

one of my closest friends had (and still has) a crush on her. So I literally just broke the news to her, and she seemed unnerved about it.

 

Well, you were already disloyal to your friend by gossiping about his feelings. How do you think he would feel about that?