Did I do the right thing telling my ex to get out of my life?

[Glaxel]

My ex and I were first loves... we agreed to be friends after the break up but things got messy and he started pushing me over the edge with the way he has been treating me and blannet disrespect of me. I could not deal with him being on and off with me and honestly giving me lots of stress of what to do. Then he finally pushed me over the edge and I told him to get the **** out my life.. I also said he was immature an **** etc..He pushed me over the edge from being so wishy washy with me and telling me he didn't want to be close friends anymore even though two weeks before he wanted to be close with me. after I had said all that he didn't reply which was fine bc I didn't want him to and then later in the day my mom told me he stared at her while she was driving by him which she claims he has nvr done before. A couple days later I wrote him a letter that was much nicer and explained to him how I felt and talked about the good things and bad that were in the relationship and that maybe we can connect again but for right now that he had pushed me away for good.I told him I still don't take back what I said but I still handled the situation wrong and I still cant talk to him anymore because He wont do right by me. I texted him and asked if he got the jacket I gave back and the letter but he didn't reply Yesterday I saw him and we talked for a little bit I was still nice to him and told him ill see him around. my question is did I handle this situation well? or Am I being to nice? Will It make him realize his mistakes?

[Harrowdown]

Yes, you handled it well. Now cut him off, you deserve better. Like you said: "He wont do right by me".

[Wiseman2]

This is much better for healing and moving on after a breakup 6714861] I told him to get the **** out my life.Than this 6714861]we agreed to be friends after the break up but things got messy

[rosecolored108]

It is hard to be friends with an ex after a break-up if things were serious. I have tried that in the past, and it only causes more stress and arguments, if there are feelings there.

 

As hard as it is, it is best to not contact them and work on moving on with your life.

 

If he "won't do right by you" then it is time to cut ties.

 

If he truly loves you and wants to eventually "do right" by you, he will realize his mistakes and will try to make up for them.

 

However, either way, you need to heal on your own accord. Otherwise, you will just be stuck in an endless cycle of arguments post break-up.

[SooSad33]

Make him realize his mistakes? probably not- some are just that... stubborn.. irrational etc. ( not relationship material).

 

YOU just need to accept the fact that it's done.. and you're not compatible.

 

So, STOP all interaction and take your life back.... as mentioned. No more contact. Work on YOU and healing.

Can't do that if you're continously reminding yourself of.. HIM.

 

Cant be 'friends' with someone you still have feelings for.

[Glaxel]

I saw him walking across the street and I turned the other corner..not because I was scared to see him more I just didn't want to see him right now. I feel kinda bad about it because I don't want it to be like that and I think he could of possibly saw me. I want to clear the air if he did but I don't know If I should or not because I don't want him to think I'm avoiding him. Its just hard living in the same neighborhood as him.

[Wiseman2]

But you should be avoiding him after a breakup, just like you go no contact and block on social media.

I don't want him to think I'm avoiding him. Its just hard living in the same neighborhood as him.

[Glaxel]

I have been except for talking to him yesterday.. I guess I still care after everything. Everyone thinks I did the right thing and I think I did too. But some people have told me he might come back. but I don't know.

[rosecolored108]

"Make him realize his mistakes? probably not- some are just that... stubborn.. irrational etc. ( not relationship material)."

 

That is true...which is why I prefaced my statement with "IF he truly loves you and wants you..."

 

I don't know him personally.

 

You are doing the right thing Glaxel. You need to avoid him to heal as there are feelings there; do not feel bad about that. It is definitely hard to live in the same neighborhood, but it can be done! Keep your head up!

[Glaxel]

He just texted me sending a picture of me and this guy very close together for a photoshoot we did together. He got the picture from the guys Instagram and told me looked he didn't like that I looked inappropriate in the pic and said he thought I had more dignity. The picture wasn't that bad and it was for a photoshoot. then he told me he doesn't care because he doesn't ''claim'' me.. I'm kinda confused.. He kept saying he wanted to here my opinion about the picture. I just told him that I'm moving on right now.. or just not replied at all

[SooSad33]

Stop feeling like you have to answer to him. You don't! And, HE needs to also realize this.

You owe him Nothing!

 

Leave him alone.. stop dealing with him. Back off now and go on your own way. Get your inner strength back.

[Glaxel]

He just texted me sending a picture of me and this guy very close together for a photoshoot we did together. He got the picture from the guys Instagram and told me looked he didn't like that I looked inappropriate in the pic and said he thought I had more dignity. The picture wasn't that bad and it was for a photoshoot. then he told me he doesn't care because he doesn't ''claim'' me.. I'm kinda confused.. He kept saying he wanted to here my opinion about the picture. I just told him that I'm moving on right now.. or just not replied at all

[rosecolored108]

Really, you should not be replying. He is just trying to get a reaction out of you. By responding, you are investing time in this nonsense. I know it is easier said than done, but just ignore him. Responding isn't accomplishing anything positive for you, or him.

[Glaxel]

well I wont if he texts me again which I don't think he will. thanks a lot for everyones help. It made me want to fous on myself more and try to stop worrying about him

[Juliaml20]

Well, if you're moving on then why do you want to keep him as a friend even if he threat you bad?

You know.. I am in the same situation, he's not gonna learn the lesson because of you. He must do it by himself.

Don't waste energy and time sending letters to persons that does not know how to interpretate it.

[Glaxel]

how is he gonna figure that out himself?

[Glaxel]

or is it possible

[HeartGoesOn]

I'm getting a vibe that rather than this being a breakup, it's a set up, in the hopes of teaching him a lesson. Be careful, as this has a tendency to backfire.

 

A better approach would be to set an honest tone, and say what you mean, or give up entirely and walk away.

[Glaxel]

its more I wanted to leave because I honestly couldn't take it anymore and I set an honest tone with him by giving him my letter and telling him how I wish he would do right by me and explaining to him how I felt but I still wanted him to understand still what I was talking about or eventually get it. and him trying to text me over a silly thing made me wonder why He would even want to contact me at all after I told him I didn't want him apart of my life.

[kamurj]

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