Relationship advice needed asap

[Sparkle99]

I am looking for advice on my situation, I'm in a relationship with my partner about 3 years, in the beginning he cheated , was violent, has called me every name under the sun, has accused me of cheating numerous times when I never did but apart from that, after the initial break up, he was great, he supported me and my child who is from a previous relationship and became a father to him . it goes from one extreme to another, I haven't been out with my friends in over 2 years, I planned a night out and he has went into a jealous fit claiming he will not have me go to a night club , I have never ever ever given him a reason not to trust me, I've been faithful to him for all the relationship and he still goes on as if he cannot trust me, after the news of me planning to go out, he ignores me for 2 days straight sleeping on the couch , he is still ignoring me as of this moment, he posts naked videos of girls on social media and tells on public posts of his plans to get faced, this doesnt bother me ive told him to do what makes him happy and if he wants to go out he can,if I try speak to him he screams and tells me to f*** off and is abusive, I'm mentally exhausted, we went through 2 miscarriages and he claimed last time I planned something that I could not go out with friends as he was trying to get healthy to have a healthy baby , I respected his wishes, and he went out on drink and drugs. I feel trapped as I do love him but he has been so disrespectful and horrible I can't stand it ,when I eventually stand up for myself and cop on, he says he will have more respect and stop acting like an idiot, this lasts for all of two days to a week. I don't want my son to go through losing him so I don't know what to do, please help. I can't talk to friends about this as he flips, he has said to his friends he hopes I get a smack of a car, which his friends wdre not impressed with. claiming it was a joke, I don't feel loved and I feel awful.

[FreedomRing]

Why in the h.ell are you putting up with this????? He's a TERRIBLE example for your child!

[SapphireNoir10]

You need to put your child FIRST by showing him what a healthy good relationship is. Do you want your son to grow up thinking this is how you treat women?

 

This is completely unacceptable to expose a child to. Also you need to look after yourself and walk away. This is a terrible relationship. I know it's easier said than done but please just do it for your child.

 

IF you can possibly afford it maybe try and get yourself into therapy.

[greta96]

Your son will be much, much better off without him in his life, and so will you. Nobody needs to live with an abusive, controlling, rude, manipulative SOB.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. Do you have friends or family nearby? Do you work or have your own car or money? Please begin confiding in trusted friends and family about what's happening.

 

Get your child to his REAL father or family in a decent environment, not around drugs, drinking, violence and abuse. That is terrifying for children.

 

Please read up on abusive relationships as much as you don't want to believe you are in one. in the beginning he cheated , was violent, has called me every name under the sun, has accused me of cheating numerous times when I never did but apart from that. he supported me and my child who is from a previous relationship and became a father to him . it goes from one extreme to another, I haven't been out with my friends in over 2 years, he went out on drink and drugs. I feel trapped.