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How to cut off a toxic person

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So there's this guy who I've had feelings for since I've met him (7 months ago) and he has made it clear from the beginning that he doesn't want to be anything more than friends but we still sleep together. Honestly the guy is a loser, he doesn't drive, he doesn't have any friends, and he lies constantly. I actually feel I've lost feelings for him since I've been getting to know him better. He asks me to do him favors all the time like give him rides and go feed his cat while he's at work. I honestly think he's using me, especially since I've told him several times I have feelings for him and he just keeps saying he doesn't want a relationship. i spend so much time with him and I know I'm wasting my time because he'll never want to be more than what we are, and I really want to cut him off but I don't know how. He texts me things like "hey baby" and always wants me to come over because he doesn't have anyone else and he doesn't drive. All of my friends think he's really weird and they tell me I should stop talking to him because he's using me. Would it be appropriate to just text him and tell him I don't wanna hangout with him anymore? I'm so tired of being friends with a guy who clearly doesn't even care about me, but he always insists he does care about me. I'm really not happy with the situation and it's not good for my emotional health.

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ThatwasThen Grand Master

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A text saying: "Sorry, can't do this thing we have going on anymore" should suffice. Even if you cut out the sex and just keep the friendship he will be using you to drive his arse around town and feed his cats when he can't do it. What, may I ask, does he do for you past the sex that makes your self worth plummet one schtuupe at a time?

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katrina1980 Grand Master

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He does absolutely nothing for me, I literally do so many things for him for nothing. Besides the sex and having someone to hangout with, he does nothing for me. I don't even want to be friends with him without the sex, I just want to cut him off completely.

 

I don't understand, had you not read ThatwasThen's response when you wrote this?

 

It's very simple but you're making it complicated. Not sure why. He treats you like garbage and you're done, period, end of!

 

Tell him it's not working for you anymore and you wish him the best.

 

Then block delete, next!

 

See how easy that was?

 

You don't owe him anything.

 

So just do it, text him tonight (he doesn't even deserve a phone call), then block, delete.

 

DONE.

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katrina1980 Grand Master

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Also, if I block his number will he know? I mean other than me not responding. I have an iPhone and he has a Samsung.

 

I don't know and wouldn't care, nor should you.

 

You sound hesitant to actually do this. Are you? And if so, why?

 

Are you just angry but still have feelings for him?

 

I'm confused now.

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I don't know and wouldn't care, nor should you.

 

You sound hesitant to actually do this. Are you? And if so, why?

 

Are you just angry but still have feelings for him?

 

I'm confused now.

 

The only reason I'm worried is because he seems to have anger issues and I feel like hes gonna get really mad and offended especially if I block him.

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A text saying: "Sorry, can't do this thing we have going on anymore" should suffice. Even if you cut out the sex and just keep the friendship he will be using you to drive his arse around town and feed his cats when he can't do it. What, may I ask, does he do for you past the sex that makes your self worth plummet one schtuupe at a time?

 

He does absolutely nothing for me. I don't even want to be friends with him without the sex, he certainly doesn't act like a friend to me.

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Capricorn3 Grand Master

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It doesn't matter if you have a fog horn, and he uses morse code. If your true intent is to walk away, these questions would be a moot point.

 

I was thinking the same thing. OP, if your true intent is to walk away then none of this matters. It doesn't matter what he thinks. Your word "toxic" is enough reason the get rid of someone. Simply block and lose ALL contact. End it and mean it.

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ThatwasThen Grand Master

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He does absolutely nothing for me. I don't even want to be friends with him without the sex, he certainly doesn't act like a friend to me.

 

Then, yes. Just block and delete him from all means of communication and get on with your life without him in it. He's a parasite that you need to cleanse from your system through the injection of cold turkey, zero contact.

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katrina1980 Grand Master

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The only reason I'm worried is because he seems to have anger issues and I feel like hes gonna get really mad and offended especially if I block him.

 

So what? Let him be angry if he wants.

 

You've blocked him so if he lashes out at you, you won't ever see it!

 

That's the beauty of blocking. Their messages are somewhere out in cyberspace, never for you to see or deal with again!

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melancholy123 Grand Master

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This is so simple to solve and yet you are making it so hard. You block this guy. You delete him from your phone and anywhere else. Losers are just that. Users are just that. He is both. You dont like this guy, he's good for nothing. So stop postponing the inevitable and just block him. You dont have to inform him you are doing this unless you really want to. Block him and move on.

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This is so simple to solve and yet you are making it so hard. You block this guy. You delete him from your phone and anywhere else. Losers are just that. Users are just that. He is both. You dont like this guy, he's good for nothing. So stop postponing the inevitable and just block him. You dont have to inform him you are doing this unless you really want to. Block him and move on.

 

Thanks, I just sent a text saying I'm not doing this anymore and then I blocked him.

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