Asking a girl on a date

[00011001]

So I asked a girl on a date a while ago, she said yes and seemed quite happy about it.

 

Unfortunately due to her mom getting ill she was unable to go to this date so we had to reschedule some other time. I said this was fine since it's family and I'd probably do the same in her situation.

 

This was about 3 weeks ago. I asked her if she wanted to go out last week but she didn't get back to me with a yes or no (We ended up talking for a little bit, but not about going out).

 

I'm not really sure how to approach attempting to re-arrange again, considering it is now nearly Christmas I probably can't go out with her until after, but I don't want to seem pushy/desperate by asking her on a date for a third time...

The other problem is I haven't been speaking to her recently because I've been so busy with work and she hasn't really tried talking to me either for whatever reason.

 

I'm very inexperienced in this sort of thing (I've got 0 experience to be exact) so I really do not know what to do in this situation.

[Wiseman2]

Wish her a happy Christmas and then mention getting together after the holidays to get a read on her response to that. If it's vague again, then leave it. Nice approach though.

Unfortunately due to her mom getting ill she was unable to go to this date so we had to reschedule some other time.I asked her if she wanted to go out last week but she didn't get back to me with a yes or no

[Scoe141]

I love the effort here. A lot of folks wouldn't take this approach.

 

That being said, if someone wanted to get together with someone they would (aside from her mom getting ill). I would drop it. You already asked twice and left it in her court. You shouldn't have to chase her around the block. If she wants to get together, she'll get back to you with a legitimate answer.

 

 

Good luck.

[Sportster2005]

She's blowing you off. Let it go. People that want to be with you, will.

 

When you ask a woman out, anything but yes is a no. Things do pop up, give them a chance. But when they are vague about scheduling, it's time to move on to better things.

[lostandhurt]

How do you know her? In person? Social media?

 

Lost

[Hawaii96814]

First of all, how long do you know this girl before you asked her on a date? My guess is you didn't create enough interest for her to say yes to you.

 

So you asked her 3 weeks ago, then you asked her again 2 weeks later? We need more info to help you. During the time she rejected you, have you been texting each other before you asked her out again 2 weeks later?

[LiamLondon]

This was about 3 weeks ago. I asked her if she wanted to go out last week but she didn't get back to me with a yes or no (We ended up talking for a little bit, but not about going out).

 

Depends in how the conversation went and who controlled it. If the conversation veered off because she veered it off then you are being blown off. If it was because you are a bit shy then just write her a final note in txt she has to say "yes" or "no" to. Keep it short and sweet and you will know.

 

I'm not really sure how to approach attempting to re-arrange again, considering it is now nearly Christmas I probably can't go out with her until after, but I don't want to seem pushy/desperate by asking her on a date for a third time...

The other problem is I haven't been speaking to her recently because I've been so busy with work and she hasn't really tried talking to me either for whatever reason.

 

I'm very inexperienced in this sort of thing (I've got 0 experience to be exact) so I really do not know what to do in this situation.

 

You're over thinking it. Instead of trying to measure this why not spontaneously make the time and give her something concrete to say yes or no to? Too often guys have overly precise times when to call a girl and it affects the quality of love life they have.

 

I once had a gf I saw once a month and just grabbed the bull by the horns and said next free day she had we were going out and had a good time. Try and depersonalise this. I don't get hurt by women rejecting me. Sometimes I can see it's nothing to do with me eg this girl is busy. But even if it's due to something I did I can handle that. That will come with time, especially as you meet people and gain more experience. Part of it is realising that the real reasons people do badly on dates are easily remedied, another part is realising that sometimes a girl just isn't going to like me, which to me isn't to do with me per se. I suspect it's just that you picked a bad time and it's hard to get that moment back.

 

Ease up on yourself as you asked someone out, which is an achievement. There's 40 somethings out there that have never done that but think "if only my chin looked nicer" or other superficial things and go around in circles of bitterness about why they think they cannot meet someone of their desired sex. You are already ahead of them.

[force]

It sounds like she's blowing you off. I would ask her ONE more time. Say "I'd really like to get together, when are you free and we'll plan something?" If she gives you wishy washy response say "okay let me know when your schedule is better." Then never text her again.

[LiamLondon]

It sounds like she's blowing you off.

 

In UK blowing someone off means something else... In UK definition the problem is he's not getting blown...