Rebound Relationship

[Limie]

I personally are not fond of rebound relationship. But there are times I wish I was in a relationship to get over my ex. And there are times when my ex cheated on me. And times where my ex got into a rebound relationship just to forget me! (different ex) What do you think of rebound relationship? Do they last? Can you forgive and take your ex back after they went through a rebound relationship?

 

After my break up with my ex, he is being attractive to another girl. And who knows, they can be in a relationship. As much as I struggle and wish to have him back. I just can't get it over my head that how can he jump into another girl so fast?

[Wiseman2]

Hard to say if they just start dating again because they are lonely/want sex or if they had theirs eye on this person for a while. Eventually everyone moves on and starts dating again.

[gebaird]

I think a lot of it depends on the specific situation. If you are broken and hurting after a breakup, you might bring your baggage and pain into the new relationship and cause it to fail. But I've also seen "rebound" situations when there is less emotional baggage that turn into lasting and committed connections. It really depends a lot on your emotional state. I think it's important to be selective about who you date, not just look for someone with a pulse to fill the empty space. If you are using people or struggle with codependence, choosing to be alone for a while so you can work through your pain and dysfunction can be a path for personal growth.

[RayF]

People jump into things as distractions, to not think about or mourn the loss of a person. Or to not deal with their own issues which led to the break up in the first place. When you lose an intimate connection your reward center of your brain is missing something, so they try and fill that connection with another person... to have someone there, to know someone wants to talk to you or be intimate with you...

 

I was dumped a month ago. With us, My ex moved onto me right after her ex of four years dumped her. And when she dumped me I'm convinced that she had unresolved issues from that breakup. I do think that it was a little of why we broke up, but mostly our love was legitimate and the exception to the norm of a rebound. Had she had more life experience it might have worked with us.

 

So I think it's possible for it to work yes, even though mine did not.

 

Is she with someone now? I don't know... I know her attachment style if she is not she will try to be soon. I would have never left her, if she came back would I take her back if she had a new understanding of what she walked away from even if she was with someone or people in-between? I absolutely would. Why not?

 

I've been seeing a couple of people myself, I've been honest that I'm recovering from a breakup but also honest I'm open to seeing where things go.

 

But I can tell you first hand I'm very aware of rebounds, their implications and that part of this is my recovery period. And I can also tell you first hand that even after decent dates or sex with someone new, my mind and my heart is with my ex. Hopefully one day it will not be.

 

I two people shared something real it does not go way.

 

In the case of my ex she was just extremely lucky to meet another super compatible person right away. But i doubt lighting will strike three times.

[Hollyj]

Because your relationship was toxic, noncommittal and dysfunctional. You really didn't have a relationship for some time. He also dumped you repeatedly. Don't you think it's time you tried to move on from the mess!

[jah123]

Yeah, obviously sometimes you feel alone and you'd like to get into a relationship with somebody..I'm actually feeling like it right now but I know it wouldn't be a right thing to do. First of all, it hasn't been that much time since me and my ex broke up. Second, I know that I could hurt somebody's feelings, because I wouldn't probably stand this relationship for a long time.

 

It's good to seek for help amongst other people, but relationship...? Maybe it's just better to give yourself some time, to clean your head from negative feelings and emotions..Rebounding with somebody usually means hurting that person.

 

And it's funny because when you get out of a toxic relationship(for instance cheating) you usually lose your trust and think that every other dude is going to cheat on you. That's why it's better to reconsider everything in your head, to give yourself sometime instead trying a rebound.

 

So to sum up, I'm giving a rebound a "NO". Even tho it's very tempting, it usually just doesn't work and hurts other people

[Hawaii96814]

Yeah, obviously sometimes you feel alone and you'd like to get into a relationship with somebody..I'm actually feeling like it right now but I know it wouldn't be a right thing to do. First of all, it hasn't been that much time since me and my ex broke up. Second, I know that I could hurt somebody's feelings, because I wouldn't probably stand this relationship for a long time.

 

It's good to seek for help amongst other people, but relationship...? Maybe it's just better to give yourself some time, to clean your head from negative feelings and emotions..Rebounding with somebody usually means hurting that person.

 

And it's funny because when you get out of a toxic relationship(for instance cheating) you usually lose your trust and think that every other dude is going to cheat on you. That's why it's better to reconsider everything in your head, to give yourself sometime instead trying a rebound.

 

So to sum up, I'm giving a rebound a "NO". Even tho it's very tempting, it usually just doesn't work and hurts other people

 

I wish my ex had the same mentally as you do. The day she broke with me is the day she's already back on Tinder chatting with new guys. I think even a couple broke up, we still need to consider their feelings because they were the center of our life at once. It just a respect to the other person to grieve and I would say give it at least 3 months before jumping to a new relationship.

[No1]

There will be a point you come to when you have to say enough of this. You must love the drama to wish to have this guy back in your life.

 

Here is your chance to get a way from this.... Perfect time to say enough and move on with your life and away from this guy.

 

However if you love the drama, the pain, the issues, then wait for him.. whatever pain you feel from this guy from this day forward is because you wanted it.

[lyricwriter]

I don't think rebound relationships are healthy. I kinda feel like I'm currently in a rebound relationship with my first girlfriend ever. Don't get me wrong, me and her both care about each other, but I am wondering if I am filling the void of her insensitive , jerky ex-boyfriend. And I wonder if she wanted to be in a relationship with me just because she wanted to be in one or if she didn't care who it was as long as they weren't gonna be a jerk to her(and I would never be a jerk).