Is there anything I should be concerned about??

[GTR King]

Ok so I started talking to a Girl on tinder

 

Me-26 5ft 8 Slim/Average

Her 25 5ft Average

 

35-50 mins between us (Driving and depends on traffic) we both drive..

 

We started talking (Tinder) 29th November for a few days Exchanged numbers 3rd December and arranged a date...

 

Date was 8th Dec (Went for drink my home town I bought the drinks) She was 20 mins late (Due to parking/Late night shopping) Bought her flowers She loved them and the date lasted 2 hours or so... She enjoyed the date so arranged another one...

 

2nd date 16th December (Went for meal in town between us I paid for meal) had a lovely time and gonna have third date after xmas (We both busy before xmas)

 

I have enjoyed our dates so far & Liked her enough to see her again of 3rd date..

On the 2nd date she opened up and told me she has Depression/Anxiety (She said she might not have it for ever and it's mild but dose affect her) will this be a big deal?? (I don't think it is) But have dated a Bipolar Girl before...

 

On our dates she has been happy/talkative and on our last date we hugged and she let me kiss her on the cheek

 

Should I continue to see her?? I want to

[Wiseman2]

After 2 dates you don't really know her at all. Wait for the 3rd date and see what happens.

On the 2nd date she opened up and told me she has Depression/Anxiety (She said she might not have it for ever and it's mild but dose affect her) will this be a big deal?? (I don't think it is) But have dated a Bipolar Girl before.

[GTR King]

Ok thanks I was gonna do that, but her telling me she has Depression/Anxiety is that a deal break?? or dose that not matter for now?

 

I wanna keep dating her as we have loads in common

 

Things in Common

Italian food

Neighbours

Chinese

Indian

Cats/Dogs

Shopping

Films

Holiday

Eating out

TV

Theme Parks

[innuendo]

Short answer, sure why not. See where it goes.

 

I'm confused as to why you would include both your heights and body types in your question though?

[GTR King]

I just did dunno why

 

So should I keep dating her even tho she has depression/anxiety?? I think that's not a big deal but did date bipolar girl before (She ended it)

 

I do like her she is the first girl in ages (Nearly a year or so) that I feel connected to etc

[Wiseman2]

It seems you like her and at this point you really don't know if it's an issue. If it becomes one, you can call it quits at that point.

her telling me she has Depression/Anxiety is that a deal break?? I wanna keep dating her as we have loads in common

[GTR King]

Thanks for that,

 

yeah I don't know if it will be an issue (Hope not) that what worried me when she said that at first... but thought I will see how it goes, So I should just keep dating her (Maybe Boyfriend/Girlfriend in the Future) and if it become an issue e.g she gets worse I should tell her about it and call it quits if i have to??

 

But most of the girls I have dated have had problems

Bipolar

Anxiety

Depression

Gluten Free

 

Dunno why that is usually find out after few dates or more

[Wiseman2]

Don't let your baggage from a bipolar ex dictate your new dating and happiness. you had 2 dates with her. There is no crystal ball that says this will succeed or this will fail.

 

All you can do is date because the whole point of dating is to get to know someone. If your baggage is holding you back, check your baggage.

I don't know if it will be an issue (Hope not) that what worried me when she said that at first.

[katrina1980]

If she is on meds or otherwise managing it, then it's NO PROBLEM. I used to suffer from both as well (was diagnosed by a qualified MD many years ago).

 

I manage through exercise and eating the right food.

 

I rarely suffer symptoms anymore, and when I do, they're not serious.

 

Bipolar is quite different. Depending on whether someone was diagnosed with I or II would be the deciding factor for me.

 

Biplolar I is very serious, psychotic delusions, SEVERE mood swings, the mania being particularly destructive.

 

Bipolar II is less severe and quite manageable through meds or exercise, eating healthy and perhaps therapy.

 

First time revealing this on this board, but I was diagnosed with Bipolar II many years ago as well.

 

I rarely, IF EVER, suffer symptoms anymore as I am managing it, again, with the proper diet and exercise. Yoga and running in particular.

[GTR King]

Thank you...

 

I am gonna keep dating her to get to know her better.....

 

If there are any issues I will talk it through with her etc...

 

Nothing is holding me back at all...When she said that it worried at first but not now

 

She is on meds and told me she probably won't have it for ever and can drink... She is managing it well

 

Ex was Bipolar 1 on Meds but kept getting worse so that why she ended it that was over 3 years ago and couldn't drink alcohol

[Wiseman2]

It sounds like she's trying to be honest, but don't let promises like "won't be forever" or the fact that she drinks (which she shouldn't on meds) make any difference.

 

You need to see how it goes with your own eyes. You have no idea if she's "managing well" after 2 dates. Just see how it goes and watch for things that are deal breakers just as you would in any other case.

She is on meds and told me she probably won't have it forever and can drink...She is managing it well

[katrina1980]

It sounds like she's trying to be honest, but don't let promises like "won't be forever" or the fact that she drinks (which she shouldn't on meds) make any difference.

 

You need to see how it goes with your own eyes. You have no idea if she's "managing well" after 2 dates. Just see how it goes and watch for things that are deal breakers just as you would in any other case.

 

Bolded, beat me to it!

 

Agree with the rest of your post as well, but the drinking while on meds scares me.

 

The doctor should have warned her against doing this, it is very dangerous to mix those types of meds with alcohol.

 

Not sure what she's thinking TBH.

 

People have died from mixing them.

[katrina1980]

GTR I sincerely hope this girl is being straight with you and not pulling some sort of shyt test on you to determine how much you care, or whatevs. It wouldn't be the first time.

 

I am usually not that cynical but her telling you she won't have forever (have no idea where she came up with that - many people do, in fact, "have it" forever, but they manage it), and then ignoring all warnings to not drink while on the meds and doing so anyway, tells me something is NOT jiving here.

 

I hope I am wrong!!

[GTR King]

I hope not & hopefully it will go well but will see what happens

[limichelle]

I agree with Katrina! Something doesn't sound right. Mental illness such as bipolar doesn't just go away, it can be managed quite well for life but just doesn't disappear like acne.

 

Also I have a serious mental illness and I steer clear of drinking because of the dangers of mixing alcohol and medication. Not only that but the alcohol diminishes the effect the medication has.

 

Be wary.

 

Lisa

[Ms Darcy]

I think the bigger issue is that you met her on Tinder the meat market.

[KantSleep]

I would hang in there with her. It sounds to me that she wanted to be up front with you, and not keep secrets. There are different types of depression, and some are not so severe. My niece suffers from anxiety/depression, but you would never know it as it is managed well. She is smart, ambitious and has a good heart. Good luck.

[Varg]

Does she go to a psychologist? Meds are just crutches, she has to change internally and this won't happen on medication alone.

[GTR King]

Thanks guys & Girls

 

She manages it really well & only recently went on tablets due to work, (Working at Tesco) Being stressed with work etc (She looking to leave her job)....

 

Told me that she don't get ill that often...

 

Don't think she has had a drink since being on tablets....

 

She said she wanted to let me know about her Depression & Anexity early so I knew what I am dealing with...

 

Varg- I don't think she dose

 

I do like this girl and wanna keep seeing her but if things get to much I will leave

[Wiseman2]

Exactly, just like any other dating situation. You date, get to know her and if red flags or deal breakers show up, you pull the plug.

I do like this girl and wanna keep seeing her but if things get to much I will leave

[GTR King]

Thanks for the Advice, I will keep dating her to get to know her better & hopefully a relationship in the future...

 

If there are any rd flags that crop up or her contdion get worse e.g affect us etc I will pull out nicely etc

[GTR King]

3rd date is next week... Going for food & cinema (Gonna to see the New Star wars film I have seen it but wanted to take her)

 

We haven't spoke much today as she been busy at work etc...

 

The text convos have been good so far and we texted loads yesterday...

 

So gonna keep it up & see how things go....

[GTR King]

Last update she text me this

 

Hi I have something to tell u, do not want to lead u on any further, we have had two lovely dates but i just see as a friend, do not want u to think it can be anything more, I do not want to upset because u are lovely and nice, hopefully u can find someone who is compatible with u, we can meet up if u want as friends because u are a nice guy, sorry if I have upset u not my intention at all, did not want to upset u at Xmas x

 

We did agree to meet up this Thursday (No time yet) but she said she was looking forward to it...

 

She did say on last date she would love to see me again and have a great time..

 

o well she wasn't meant to be these things happen in life and I tried my best...