How do I get over him and get through the break up?

[renee9]

It's been about 3 months now since me and my former boyfriend broke up. I still love him, like really love him and I'd still help him out or do anything he asks me to. We communicate every now again through text or he'll come to my house or I'll go to his and it honestly feels like old times, but he constantly disappears then reappears into my life and messes with my head and now I think I want out.

 

How do I get through a break up and how do I get over him...?

 

I'd still love to be in his life because we had a friendship with eachother before we got together and whenever we're together we're always super close..

 

Help?! Please

[Wiseman2]

Why did you break up? It doesn't sound like you broke up if you are still talking and hanging out? What do you want? A relationship? fwb?

 

All you can do to get out of this limbo is either tell him you want to reconcile or break up and go no contact and block him so you can heal and move one.

It's been about 3 months now since me and my former boyfriend broke up. We communicate every now again through text or he'll come to my house or I'll go to his and it honestly feels like old times, but he constantly disappears then reappears into my life and messes with my head and now I think I want out.

[coolgirl]

I can relate to some level. I had a guy disappear and reappear in my life for about a year friends or not friends is this something your willing to put up with for the rest of your life ? Dont you want someone that is content ? And not go back and fourth with you ? I got sick and tired of his minds games. So do something about it and take control over this situation. If you don't your going to be stuck in a limbo. I loved the guy I was talking too. Actually I was in love with him him. Even though if loved him very much I rather choose my happiness rather than being miserable. Don't let this guy get to you. Do what's right. Even though it's hard to let go off trust me you be better off in the long run. It will take time to heal, but you deserve way much better than this. Block contact, remove any type of memories yall had together, emails, text messages social media. Hopefully one day you find someone who doesn't play mind games with you. Because that's what it seems like. Hope this helped a bit.

[Viceroy]

You're going to have to change your whole mindset, and you need to be honest with yourself. Yes, you would love to still be in his life, but it is just causing you too many problems right now. The best thing to do is to take care of yourself. You need to focus on you, and work on healing. Things like exercise, journaling and going out with help you take your mind off of him. You also should scale back your contact, and do not meet up with him. I am not saying be rude, but if he texts you, just reply back politely. Do not contact him on your own.

[renee9]

We broke up because he claimed he wasnt ready for a relationship