Why did he run away when things were going smoothly?

[pshop90]

Hi,

 

I've been chatting to this really lovely guy online. We used to actually chat online last year but then he disappeared on me and it was crushing because we never got the chance to meet and I really craved getting to know him in person. Fast forward a year or so and I have found him online again and we have been chatting for the last five or so days and reconnecting again.

 

His profile states he's looking to connect with someone for something meaningful and that he's motivated by love and not seeking NSA, which is exactly what I'm looking for too. So we've been getting along really really well and I've been asking for his number but he keeps avoiding it. He added me on Snapchat and I asked him if he'd like to go on a little date with me sometime so I can get to know him in person better. That's when he deleted me and blocked me online. And again I'm left wondering what the hell went wrong ??

 

This exact situation happened to me last year with him and I was hoping this time would be different. He is incredibly attractive both inside and out and I honestly think we could get along so well, but now I just think he's only a player luring in men and then running away after he's teased them a bit. I want to convince myself that he's just a d*** and to forget about him, but I still really want to get to know him.

 

Any advice?

[Edmund Exley]

I would bet he is married and just looking for some attention online

[Wiseman2]

At this point it may become clear he's just looking for cyber sex or a catfish or not who he claims to be.

we never got the chance to meet. I want to convince myself that he's just a d*** and to forget about him

[Edmund Exley]

 

This exact situation happened to me last year with him and I was hoping this time would be different./

 

Here's what you really should be asking advice about. What it is about you that would allow you to give this guy a second try after what he did the first time.

[Capricorn3]

He is incredibly attractive both inside and out

There is nothing attractive about a guy who plays the disappearing act with people. Even worse, when they do it multiple times. Trust me, you really don't want to get to know this jerk. He has shown you his true colours. This is who he is. Don't waste anymore time or energy on him. He's probably married anyway and messing with many girls on the side. Ugh. You can do a lot better. Next!

[pshop90]

Here's what you really should be asking advice about. What it is about you that would allow you to give this guy a second try after what he did the first time.

 

That's a really good point. I honestly don't have the slightest clue why I thought it would be different this time. I guess the conversations we had this time were different than the first. They were more deep and meaningful, so I thought there might be a chance this time.

I remember the first time we ever spoke and I mentioned the word "date" he blocked me. Then it happened again this time and I figured things really haven't changed with him and that he must be a player. I don't think it's healthy for me to cross paths with him again.

[pshop90]

There is nothing attractive about a guy who plays the disappearing act with people. Even worse, when they do it multiple times. Trust me, you really don't want to get to know this jerk. He has shown you his true colours. This is who he is. Don't waste anymore time or energy on him. He's probably married anyway and messing with many girls on the side. Ugh. You can do a lot better. Next!

 

Haha, we're both gay and in our mid 20's, but I'm sure he's still messing around with as many guys as he can get. Despite what he says in his profile, I've realised he clearly isn't interested in dating or making a connection with someone. I can do without someone like him.

[Capricorn3]

Haha, we're both gay and in our mid 20's, but I'm sure he's still messing around with as many guys as he can get..

Ooops, my mistake. But then again, these days gays can get married too.

[Jibralta]

Ooops, my mistake. But then again, these days gays can get married too.

 

Also, some 'straight' married men have been known to have affairs with men. Whether they are bisexual or gay, who knows. But it's been happening a lot longer than gay marriage has been legal. If you don't know the person, you don't know the person.