Help me what do I do ?

[nreid712]

I have been married just over a year we have been together 4. We both are divorced from previous marriage. Everything was fantastic until about a little after our marriage he got a new job starter treating me different at home ignoring me even when around was like something else was on his mind. I have found several articles belonging to other woman in my home in the car he never has explanation for. He starts being unreachable always in meetings. I asked him several times to take a day off spend with me, i work as well I will get a day off he says he can't he's swamped at work. I had some issues with health and then a non stop years long battle with my ex in court that I get very upset about and need my husbands support.

 

He knows of this upcoming court date I need him to support me through he does not take the day off rather he scheduled a meeting on the day he said he thought he could do both!!

 

I finally blew and said if he went in for this meeting we are through

he should be staying home with me and attending court in support. He went to work anyway despite knowing he would possibly be giving up his marriage

 

Background he has been meeting with a female coworker and never told me about her . He talks about everyou other coworker but never brought this one up I found emails. I asked him to describe her wanted to see his reaction he knew she had brown eyes I thought how are you noticing others eyes he said he does then proceeded to tell me he knew one of my coworkers eye color and I said impressive because I didn't even know I went to check and they were not the color he said

 

Please help any advice ? I have asked him to leave several times he won't I tried to leave he won't let me but continues to put me through hell

 

Help me am I being ridiculous ?

[arjumand]

What do you mean he won't let you leave? Does he hold you physically -- call the police. Otherwise, this marriage is over. He is having an affair right in your face, ignoring you and not meeting your needs. What are you sticking around for?

[happyfrank]

He doesn't take you seriously.

 

Leave him.

 

Now you know why he was divorced.

[Wiseman2]

Now you are threatening him with divorce if he doesn't hang around court for your last divorce? Isn't that rather ironic?

 

Sorry to say but your attorney, friends and family should be your support for your divorce. You should not be folding this poison and drama into a new marriage and contaminating it.

 

He should under no circumstances jeopardize his new position to take days off from work to help you through Your divorce.

 

Where is your attorney? Where is your therapist? Why won't any of your family or friends risk their jobs to support you in divorce court?

 

Please get some counselling and therapy for your divorce stress. Where you cheated on in the last marriage? You seem to hava tsumnai of anger and baggage headed into this marriage.

non stop years long battle with my ex in court that I get very upset about and need my husbands support. he does not take the day off rather he scheduled a meeting on the day he said he thought he could do both!! I finally blew and said if he went in for this meeting we are through

he should be staying home with me and attending court in support. He went to work anyway despite knowing he would possibly be giving up his marriage

[shellyf62]

Why didnt you leave when you found other women's articles in your home?

How disrespectful of him to bring women into your home

You need to leave now