Ex Is Moving Away Suddenly...Why?

[RedSalmom]

So I started another thread a few weeks ago...

 

enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=525799

 

TL;DR

 

I had future doubts, she tried to fix, I didn't. She broke up with me and moved out suddenly. I realised what the issues were and tried to repair but no success.

 

I have had sporadic contact from my ex about finances and similar things, nothing personal or emotional, certainly nothing to suggest reconciliation. She made her feelings pretty clear, outwardly anyway.

 

I bumped into her today, she has lost a stack of weight (so have I), we didn't talk about our relationship or feelings, just general family and work catch up. She looked unhealthy and has lost her sparkle, could be because she wasn't expecting to see me and it caught her off guard but she seemed sad and unhappy without emphasising it in any way.

 

I found out later that she is taking a 6 month career break and leaving the country, not sure where or why. She hasn't told me this herself.

 

Just seems like a really drastic thing to do six weeks after we split after nearly five years.

 

Is she just running away, what does it mean? I'm worried about her, the one thing she told me not to do was make any sudden or drastic life changes on the back of our split. I really don't understand.

 

Your thoughts are appreciated as always.

[rosephase]

You broke up. What she is doing with her life doesn't concern you. She hasn't told you about her career break because she doesn't want you to know.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry you ran into her, it can be awkward. You are wise to remain no contact. It sounds like she's moving on socially, professionally and personally.

 

You mentioned after 5 yrs she wanted marriage and you didn't so moving on and remaining cordial if she sees you is her only choice.

she has lost a stack of weight. I found out later that she is taking a 6 month career break and leaving the country, not sure where or why.

[DancingFool]

If you want to reconcile, you need to have a serious conversation about that asap. Otherwise, what she does with her life after dumping you is no longer your business.

 

Why did she need to dump you for you to finally work out the issues?

[qwaspolk82]

So I started another thread a few weeks ago...

 

enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=525799

 

TL;DR

 

I had future doubts, she tried to fix, I didn't. She broke up with me and moved out suddenly. I realised what the issues were and tried to repair but no success.

 

I have had sporadic contact from my ex about finances and similar things, nothing personal or emotional, certainly nothing to suggest reconciliation. She made her feelings pretty clear, outwardly anyway.

 

I bumped into her today, she has lost a stack of weight (so have I), we didn't talk about our relationship or feelings, just general family and work catch up. She looked unhealthy and has lost her sparkle, could be because she wasn't expecting to see me and it caught her off guard but she seemed sad and unhappy without emphasising it in any way.

 

I found out later that she is taking a 6 month career break and leaving the country, not sure where or why. She hasn't told me this herself.

 

Just seems like a really drastic thing to do six weeks after we split after nearly five years.

 

Is she just running away, what does it mean? I'm worried about her, the one thing she told me not to do was make any sudden or drastic life changes on the back of our split. I really don't understand.

 

Your thoughts are appreciated as always.

 

It's really none of your business what she does with her life. She may have been having a rough day. I wouldn't get too big headed to think she's depressed over you.

 

Taking a six month break after a break up of a five year relationship is drastic? I don't think so. She's doing what SHE needs to with HER life. You need to move on too.

[charneca]

It's too bad that you only realized your issues when she left you. It seems like a case "you only see how much you miss something/someone when it's gone". Are you sure you won't change your mind again?I hope that it isn't the case,but I've seen that happen to me not long ago with ex changing his mind 2 times. Anyway, I'm in favour of second chances, so if you really are sure go after her and take a shot.

In what regards to her life change, where is it written that it is a drastic measure? Everyone has its own ways of coping with loss, maybe it's her own way of dealing with things. Only she knows her motives.