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I don't know what to do. My ex boyfriend and I were together for nearly 3 and a half years. We broke up over a month or two ago. I haven't felt the same at all. I've already had depression and anxiety. But I can't describe the way I feel. I'm constantly angry and exhausted. I can't tell you the last time I've slept early and through the night. My mind won't shut down when I try to sleep. I'm still a full time senior in high school & work basically full time (30+ hours) so you think I'd be able to sleep. Absolutely nothing stops my pain, I can't eat or sleep right. It's a struggle to stay awake during the day & it's a harder struggle managing my attitude. I began to feel soffucated when people come near me and I'm constantly upset/angry. What is wrong with me & how do I fix it?

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I'm so sorry. Is therapy an option for you? That could help accelerate your healing process. Do you have a good friend you can talk to about these feelings you are having? Going through a loss like this is extremely traumatic, and you are grieving. It takes time to work through emotions like this. It might help to see a doctor and get on an anti-depressant or anti-anxiety medication, at least temporarily. Find an outlet of some kind if you can, like exercise or art or writing. There is life after loss, even though it might not feel like it now. Focus on getting through a day at a time, and trust that things will eventually be better.

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What do you mean when you say "he's the only one who stayed" in your thread title? I assume you don't have many other people that you are close to?


I would suggest you see your school's counselor, if there is one available. He or she might be able to give you some stratgies to process what you're going through, or at least point you in the direction of someone who can help.

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When you think about the bad times, you are reminded of the good times with him. When you think of the good times, you remember his negative qualities.

You see what's happening? You are on an emotional Hamster wheel.


Ofcourse you are going to be exhausted!


What I find most helpful in such situations is to first accept that you still have feelings. The anxiety and depression arises because your mind is in conflict. It's conflicted because you have feelings, but you are forcing your mind to stop liking something. Don't do that.


Accept you have feelings for him, but in the same breath tell yourself that AT THIS MOMENT, you can't do much about it. Tell yourself, that YOU are your priority , and that the most important thing to do right now is become a healthy functioning individual.


Your mind will search for answers.. "if only I did this" "if only situations weren't like this"


But why ask questions for which you will never have answers? Can anybody on this forum, or this planet ever tell you what a person is exactly thinking? No! We aren't that gifted. Neither are you, so tell your mind to calm the down coz these are questions which cannot be answered.


Be kind to yourself and treat yourself just the way you would help a friend during a breakup. Start by being kind to your body.


Take a break, visit your family for the weekend. They have seen you throughout, so you don't have to worry about being grumpy around them. They can handle you at your worst.


You have long work hours, so you need to give your body a break. Immediately.

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Sorry to hear this. Have you talked to your parents or a trusted adult or teacher about this? It's ok to feel upset about a breakup, but if it's affecting your health and functioning this much, ask for help.


What was the breakup about? Do you still talk to each other or have to see each other at school?

My ex boyfriend and I were together for nearly 3 and a half years. I'm still a full time senior in high school & work basically full time
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