Does he want it over and is not telling me?

[itgirl]

I moved in with my boyfriend two months ago. he told my parents he would look after me and support me. we landed up fighting alot over money as he earns a substantial salary. I left my job to move in, in September but contributed what I had. October i handed over all my birthday money as I was not employed and I got a job November. He hasnt told his parent I contribute and they started disliking me for being a leech. Right before I got my job he asked me to move out as he couldnt afford to keep me there. (where was I going to go) since being employed I found a place in the same area for half the rent but he doesnt want to as he likes the internet where he is. He constantly blames me that I dont earn enough but he wont change anything. we in an area HE got a job in and he has I car. I could only get a job I could walk to. I do the cooking and washing but its never good enough. he gets home at 3 and games until 2am. I get home around 6 or 7 and we dont even talk. He cried and things when i was going to leave. is that manipulation and does he really want me to go deep down? Even if I leave he will have the same expenses minus some groceries which I have actually covered.

[SapphireNoir10]

He sounds awful. Why would you stay with someone who treats you like this? you deserve more. You are trying your best. He knew your circumstances before you moved in. To punish you for them is totally awful.

[Wiseman2]

Unfortunately it's not working out. You need to move out. He resents you and you resent him. It will only get worse.

 

There's no point shooting each other down or defending yourselves or your position or actions to each other. You're not compatible.

 

Yes, he's totally checked out. Move back home, where people care about you.

I moved in with my boyfriend two months ago. he asked me to move out as he couldnt afford to keep me there.

[nutbrownhare]

Unfortunately it's not working out. You need to move out. He resents you and you resent him. It will only get worse.

 

There's no point shooting each other down or defending yourselves or your position or actions to each other. You're not compatible.

 

Yes, he's totally checked out. Move back home, where people care about you.

 

Yep. You will only get more and more miserable if you stay in a situation like this. It really sucks when you've given up a lot to be with a guy, but you need to cut your losses, get a job where you can and leave him behind. Make arrangements to leave and have everything in place, and then inform him calmly that you're leaving, the relationship isn't working out and for both your sakes you need to part.

 

Then go, and mean it.

[j.man]

What exactly was the agreement prior to you moving in with him?

[DancingFool]

So basically, you are nothing more than a live in housekeeper and he treats you like dirt. Harsh reality is that he'd probably treat an actual house keeper with much more decency.

 

Dump this clown, get out, move on and do not look back. He isn't crying for you, he is crying for the inconvenience of having to find another girl wiling to cook and clean and take his bs. Too much effort when he can whine, cry and manipulate you into sticking around.

[Edmund Exley]

He sounds awful. Why would you stay with someone who treats you like this? you deserve more. You are trying your best. He knew your circumstances before you moved in. To punish you for them is totally awful.

 

This.

 

You never truly know someone until you live with them.

[itsallgrand]

How old are you?

 

This had bad news written all over it from the get go. What is your back up plan for if you were to break up? If you don't have one, start thinking of your options. It's not working out obviously

[catfeeder]

He hasnt told his parent I contribute and they started disliking me for being a leech.

 

Do you assume this, or did he tell you this? If he told you, then yes, that's his manipulative way of holding up his parents as the bad guys. He's too cowardly to tell you that this isn't going anywhere, and he wants out. Sure, he might feel lousy about it can cry and stuff, but that doesn't mean that anything will ever get any better. He's done, and I would be equally done with him.

 

Right before I got my job he asked me to move out as he couldnt afford to keep me there.

 

Then I'd go find a room at a boarding house or with a roommate or family, and I'd leave the guy.

 

There hasn't been anything positive that's come from this move in. You feel like a frumpy housewife, and that's how he treats you. That's not going to change until you change your mind and move on. He'll just keep treating you lousy until you've had enough and move on. I'd do that sooner rather than later.

 

Head high, and don't look back.