I need some advice :)

[Neeeeerdalert]

Hey folks i would like someone to give me advice as the title says duuh. Let me start by saying that i have always been a veeery shy type of guy (mostly because of my problems with accepting myself fat ugly af etc) so i wanst able to talk with girls. I spent most of my days online playing some stupid Games sitting in teamspeak3(voice communication chat) and thats also where i meet her. As i was a shy guy she was the one trying to talk to me all the time, playing games with me etc... About a month passed ans i had a mental breakdown (family issues) she was the only one who tried to help me, the only one who truly wanted to listen. That made me open myself to her (probably first time in my life i cried like a baby talking to her about all my problems with my health - spent more than a year in hospital alone, about my ty family that never loved me bullied me etc). About another month passed the same way talking playing having fun and thats when i have fallen for her. I told her that shes the only thing that brings me happyness and that i want to meet in Real life. So we did it, we planned to meet each other(300km apart). I dont want to talk to much but i have to say that was best week in my life So we were like that together for over 2.5years already seeing each other time to time. We started planning to move on with relationship (i am going to move out to her place) maybe about engagement soon etc. And the problem starts here when she went shopping to UK to her father where he works. She was there for about 2weeks and almost didnt respond to me so i got kinda pissed. Then i realized that well its kinda like new world i mean new country, new people etc so i did calm down. When she was back she said those terrible words "im not sure what i feel to you" . So as you can guess i tried to somehow solve this to repair our relationship. But that failed, i couldnt do anything that would make her think about me as before. After about 3weeka it was getting a lot better but then another problems showed up... Her bff (yes a guy) said that he would like to be with her... I mean as a lovers. I got reaaaaally upset... We were having crisis ans then that comes with something like that... Saying that he was into her for few years etc... I told her to decide what now and that i wont give up, shes everything to me. Well she chose me(probably). About another week or two passed buuut he is still her best friend even better right now ^ they talk all the time and , and even tho i trust her 100℅ it bothers me so much that she pays so much attention to him. Im not sure what should i do... Accept him, try to fight him, break up with her or what... All i know that she wont end that "friendship".

 

TL;DR my gf best friend is a guy. Accept, kill him or break up with her ?

 

Im sorry for my terrible english (im learning myself)

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. Try not to use long distance friends as therapists. LDRs are very difficult.

 

How old is she? How often did you get to see each other? It seems she's moved on to someone else. Tt may be best to go no contact and move on as well. Why not try to meet local girls with dating apps?

So we were like that together for over 2.5years already seeing each other time to time. she said those terrible words "im not sure what i feel to you" . Her bff (yes a guy) said that he would like to be with her... I mean as a lovers.

[Neeeeerdalert]

Sorry to hear this. Try not to use long distance friends as therapists. LDRs are very difficult.

 

How old is she? How often did you get to see each other? It seems she's moved on to someone else. Tt may be best to go no contact and move on as well. Why not try to meet local girls with dating apps?

 

 

Shes 21 we saw each other every 2/3 months for week/3 at max but that was best quality time i ever had so does she i believe...

[Wiseman2]

It sounds like she moved on to this new guy. Is he local? Perhaps the challenges of LDRs was too much strain for both of you. Date locally, you'll feel better. She's too young to talk about moving in and marriage and all that .

Shes 21 we saw each other every 2/3 months for week.

[Neeeeerdalert]

Ehh you might be right... Tbh im holding to her and trying to believe its going to be ok mainly because im scared of being alone. Im not even sure if i love her or im just used to be with her...

[Wiseman2]

Get on some dating apps and start talking to local girls and meeting up for coffee with real-life girls.

mainly because im scared of being alone.