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[Sillywoman1987]

I was seeing this guy for about 3 months about a year ago, he was younger than me but we just clicked we spent a lot of time together but I was just out of a five year relationship so didn't feel ready to get back into another one. Mistake number one... for the past year we have slept together on and off but have still remained really close friends but there is still an indenyable chemistry between us. I have two children one of which he gets on with really well the other one he has difficulty with due to the fact that my sons father managed to sabotage any chance of them having any type of relationship. A lot of water has passed under the bridge this past year but anyway and now he won't touch or kiss me but we still have sex this was weird for me so I called him out on it and he said that the chemistry that we have was not in my head and the reason that he doesn't touch me anymore is because he couldn't allow himself to fall in love with me again. Me being me thought this was utter bull so I called him out again. He told me I was his soul mate and that he doesn't think he's ever going to find anyone he cares for as much as he cares for me but when I said we should try be together he just dismissed it. I can't be his friend anymore but the thought of him not being is part of my life is making me feel dead inside. I can't see my life without him but it seems far too easy for him to just walk away which is making me feel like I have made the right decision. But it's not making this any easier for me to come to terms with. Please help me I just want to feel better

[charity]

You made the right decision. I think what he said is bull too. Whether it is or isn't, the control is out of your hands anyway. Feeling better takes time but begins with acceptance that this 'relationship' was not right.

[Capricorn3]

now he won't touch or kiss me but we still have sex

I get the impression that for him this is FWB only - you're someone to go to when he feels the urge, nothing more. He's NOT interested in a relationship with you (imo). It seems you have more interest in him and if that's the case, this won't work. It's probably better to cut your losses and move on. Full NC is usually the best way to go.

[Wiseman2]

Unfortunately it seems he wants the classic fwb situation.

for the past year we have slept together on and off but have still remained really close friends and the reason that he doesn't touch me anymore is because he couldn't allow himself to fall in love with me again.

[Sillywoman1987]

Thank you I needed someone to tell me that. There is a lot more to it than what I've wrote on here and he isn't as bad as he looks in my little summing up. But the fact still remains that it's out of my hands now and I think that's what I've needed to do for a while. Thank you for the bit of clarity I needed it

[Sillywoman1987]

I've made him sound like a right he told me about my stories not providing proper clarity earlier in the week but he has his own going on at the moment that he is trying to work through at the moment. And I get it but it still doesn't stop me feeling short changed and slightly used. Full NC is definitely the way forward for me I just didn't think that you could actually physically feel so much pain because of another person. I honestly feel like someone has died. And I've been in long term relationships b4 not a non starter like this one.