My first time sexually..

[Rgupta]

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[rosephase]

How old are you?

 

If you like and trust this person than it sounds like a good person to share with. You are not alone. Unfortunately a lot of people end up going through early childhood sexual trauma. It took me a long time to tell my first chosen sexual partner about my past abuse. If you picked someone kind and caring they won't think you are a freak. I know it's hard but the good news is it gets easier. For me, the more I spoke about it, the more I shared, the easier it got.

[Wiseman2]

You have "no prior sexual experience" and "lost your virginity" you mean in a dating context? Since you found a nice understanding guy whom you enjoy intimacy and closeness with keep it that way. How are things going with regard to affection and intimacy with him?

 

Keep the past trauma in therapy rather than label him some sort of sex therapist who "helped you". Simply tell him you care about him and love his patience and kindness overall, etc. Generally you don't thank people for being decent, you just continue to date them.

I've been getting involved sexually with this guy..he's been very kind to me. This all started about a month ago, I have no prior sexual experience. As such, this is how I lost my virginity. I have never even had a boyfriend..he understands that I'm new to all of this.

[reinventmyself]

Do you just have sexual relationship with this person or an emotional one as well?

Is he your boyfriend?

[Rgupta]

Just sexual, not a boyfriend, no strings attached.

[Wiseman2]

Do not go into your therapy or past with a nsa situation. Keep it about hookups/fwb, not emotions.

Just sexual, not a boyfriend, no strings attached.

[reinventmyself]

Just sexual, not a boyfriend, no strings attached.

 

I am not sure this is the person to confide in.

Only you will know if you can trust him with this information and how he'll receive it.

[Capricorn3]

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