am i dumb and missing my chance?

[plzlmk]

I like this girl i work with we flirt quite often. she bumps me a lot teases me, etc. anyways i feel like a lot more happens than this, but i feel like these were some big opportunities i missed.

 

1. I asked her out after work for a drink with myself and a few other workers knowing it probably wasnt her thing, but myself and a few others from work were going so i figured why not was low risk. she said "i dont think so, but if you were going to yogurt heaven i'd be down" i just said something generic like ahh ok maybe next time. and i proceeded to go out with the coworkers.

 

2. a guest came up to her while we were both talking and told her she was pretty. i made a joke saying "well what about me?" guest said "you are too, are you guys dating?"(lol ) she said "no we just work together". the guest said something after that i cant recall then left. she turned to me and said "well that was quite random haha." then she said "so when are you gonna ask me out?" then quickly turned around and went to tend to her other tasks.

 

all my friend say i am a moron for not acting on #2 but you must understand i lack confidence even though i dont show it at all in person and have struggled with a lot of self image issues my entire life. im still battling an eating disorder and i just cant believe a girl as perfect as this would ever be into a guy like me. do not pitty me for this last part, im just letting you know this is why im so nervous to act on any potential signs she may be giving me. i feel like there are other subtle things she has said and done but none are as good as these i guess. is she just really nice maybe? or am i a damn fool and she is trying to make it obvious? ive told her im very shy etc and she says she is shy as well but uuuggggh help

[Wolfshook]

Well, gather your b@lls and ask her for yoghurt. But without other coworkers. Just you and her. How would you feel if a girl asks you to go somewhere with her and her friends? Probably friendzoned.

 

You have 2 valuable informations here, she likes yogurt and wants you to ask her out. Just hurry,dont postpone it for too long, I learned this on hard way.

[Wiseman2]

Ok, this is salvagable. Get off your butt and ask her to yogurt heaven. She basically handed you that date.

she said "i dont think so, but if you were going to yogurt heaven i'd be down" she said "so when are you gonna ask me out?" then quickly turned around and went to tend to her other tasks.

 

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[plzlmk]

Update: Tonight at work she came up to me and said "I think i may go out with you all tonight when you go to the bar txt me when you are off." I said "i don't have your number." her response "cmon john you havent got my number yet? tell me your number." she then asked for my number and wrote it down. she left a little later and texted me twice but i could not reply since i was at work. she messeged me once at 8 saying it was her and a second time at 10:30 saying if we all go to the bar to txt her. I didnt reply back until late at 1am when i got off. i assume she knew i would get off late since we work same place? I never heard from her even though im pretty sure she wasnt asleep, she was on facebook n stuff. i just hope i didnt come off as an a-hole, like i was doing that thing people do where they dont text back for a while to make them look like they dont care because that wasnt the case at all. either way im happy she asked me for my number i feel like thats good no matter how i look at it right?

[Wiseman2]

Ok she threw the yogurt date at you, you missed it. But really? She asks for you number, texts you 2x and you don't respond until hrs later?

 

Why don't you just ask her out now that you have her number?

 

She's going to loose interest if you keep missing the Jumbotron clues that she's interested.

"she left a little later and texted me twice but i could not reply since i was at work. she messeged me once at 8 saying it was her and a second time at 10:30 saying if we all go to the bar to txt her. I didnt reply back until late at 1am when i got off. i assume she knew i would get off late since we work same place?

[Zaphod]

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Yogurt and doggy style. Sounds like a perfect date.

 

Also, I love how you got a thanks from someone called "mustlovedogs" - that's cute.

[JaggerJim]

Yogurt and doggy style. Sounds like a perfect date.

 

Also, I love how you got a thanks from someone called "mustlovedogs" - that's cute.

 

Show her this! She'll love it. Promise.

[plzlmk]

update:

whats my next move have i blown it? I want to ask her out now but i just want to know if im too late.

 

 

 

TL;DR

She made it very obvious she likes me going so far to say im attractive, asked when am i going to ask her out, and she asked me for my number as i said above. after all this i still havent made a move because im scared i dont know why. we started texting 1-2 days ago. she seems to have gone cold. is it because i didnt man up and ask her out?

 

 

More details: Before she went cold, last time we saw eachother(last night) she waited for me to get off work, she finished like 30 mins before me. she was going to go out with me and other coworkers after i invited her. she randomly leaves and wehn i get off i check my phone. she asked me "are you off yet" i replied back "yes where are you." she then said "its getting late im tired if it would have been earlier i would have went". i said "its not that much later" then she said "did i not mention that i only got 1 hour of sleep last night?" i said "nah but its cool dont wory about it i texted her the next day see what she is up to and havent heard back. is she tired of me not making a move after she has put herself out there numerous times and hasnt seen me react to it? have i blown it?