Is this a reason for distrust?

[albert111]

I'm with my girlfriend for ca. 3 months now but we know each other as friends for nearly 2 years. We both are hoping our relationship to be a longterm one. Sometimes it happens that she corrects me, when I say 'I', she says 'we', or when I say 'my', she says 'our', etc. I trust her and we say each other everything. One time she went to a club with her female friend and after coming back told me the whole story how much she drunk, meeting some guys and her friend wanting to go home with them. Eventually they even argued because my girlfriend chose to come back home.

Last night she had her company Christmas party (only staff, no accompanying person). I gave her a lift and came back home to stay with her son. Eventually I went to bed. At ca. 2am woke up to go to the toilet and by the way checked my Facebook. Looked at 'Nearby Friends' and saw my girlfriend's distance 6km, few moments later 5km, then 3km. I'm thinking she's coming home and will be here any minute so I didn't go to bed as I knew she didn't have the key. Then it showed the distance 1km but she didn't come home until half an hour later. Before the distance reached 1km she was showing Active on the messenger, then it was showing Active xxx min ago. After coming back home she only talked how bad the party was. Place, food, drunk people (she didn't drink at all). How some drunk, obnoxious guy from her work place asked her to give him a b-job so she told him to f*** off and almost beating him up. During the talk I just threw some questions if she came back by taxi, she said yes. Or if the party was so bad why wouldn't she go to someone's afterparty. She said there was none. Nothing about that half an hour that she was so close to home. I thought she might have gone to her neighbour friend who lives few homes away, than that something might have happened to her. But I didn't asked directly where she was, and not even suggested that I knew she was so close home. I trust her and didn't want to be seen as someone who spies on her. We're together for this short time and just getting to know each other. And I don't want to throw accusations. Maybe facebook was inaccurate. As I was bit upset at that moment I only said 'good night, I'm going to bed' and gave her a kiss. Few moments later when I was in bed she came to me bit upset asking why I said I was going to bed instead of saying 'let's go to bed'. I apologized but it looks like she's now upset with me.

Am I bit paranoid?

[SherrySher]

Just ask her, it's not a huge deal. Let her know that you were up waiting for her and had seen the distance thing on Facebook, I can't see any harm in asking if you're as good of friends as you claim to be.

[Wiseman2]

3 mos is not a long time. It was nice of you to babysit while she's out partying. It's doubtful she was cheating during this supposedly unaccounted for time. It sounds like she likes to talk like a sailor when she drinks.

 

Stop babysitting and only see each other when you are doing things together. When you are not together, stay off your fb tracking app.

I'm with my girlfriend for ca. 3 months How some drunk, obnoxious guy from her work place asked her to give him a b-job so she told him to f*** off and almost beating him up.

[DaNgeRTasTiC]

You trust her but you're watching on facebook. That's pretty much spying. If you're gonig to go that distance than just come out and ask her instead of asking us?

 

It sounds like she was talking to someone. It wasn't you. You have questions, just ask. If you guys mention everything you do as "us" "we" etc then communicate with each other as well.

[DaNgeRTasTiC]

Keeping tabs or tracking someone is only going to raise questions and when it goes on for too long it will make you suspicious.

[Wolfshook]

Lol, trusting fb for distance xD .

 

Btw that's some heavy stalking right there.

[anonomousguy12]

I'm with my girlfriend for ca. 3 months now but we know each other as friends for nearly 2 years. We both are hoping our relationship to be a longterm one. Sometimes it happens that she corrects me, when I say 'I', she says 'we', or when I say 'my', she says 'our', etc. I trust her and we say each other everything. One time she went to a club with her female friend and after coming back told me the whole story how much she drunk, meeting some guys and her friend wanting to go home with them. Eventually they even argued because my girlfriend chose to come back home.

Last night she had her company Christmas party (only staff, no accompanying person). I gave her a lift and came back home to stay with her son. Eventually I went to bed. At ca. 2am woke up to go to the toilet and by the way checked my Facebook. Looked at 'Nearby Friends' and saw my girlfriend's distance 6km, few moments later 5km, then 3km. I'm thinking she's coming home and will be here any minute so I didn't go to bed as I knew she didn't have the key. Then it showed the distance 1km but she didn't come home until half an hour later. Before the distance reached 1km she was showing Active on the messenger, then it was showing Active xxx min ago. After coming back home she only talked how bad the party was. Place, food, drunk people (she didn't drink at all). How some drunk, obnoxious guy from her work place asked her to give him a b-job so she told him to f*** off and almost beating him up. During the talk I just threw some questions if she came back by taxi, she said yes. Or if the party was so bad why wouldn't she go to someone's afterparty. She said there was none. Nothing about that half an hour that she was so close to home. I thought she might have gone to her neighbour friend who lives few homes away, than that something might have happened to her. But I didn't asked directly where she was, and not even suggested that I knew she was so close home. I trust her and didn't want to be seen as someone who spies on her. We're together for this short time and just getting to know each other. And I don't want to throw accusations. Maybe facebook was inaccurate. As I was bit upset at that moment I only said 'good night, I'm going to bed' and gave her a kiss. Few moments later when I was in bed she came to me bit upset asking why I said I was going to bed instead of saying 'let's go to bed'. I apologized but it looks like she's now upset with me.

Am I bit paranoid?

 

I think you should bring it up and ask her about it.

Facebook messenger isn't accurate, i've had times where it's said i'm online to other people but i've been fast asleep.