Can a conversation turn you off?

[aishatheduffer]

It was more of a small talk. My crush is really shy but he took the courage to say hi to me first. I asked most of the questions and he replied shortly. After a good 2-3 minutes, it went dead and then he ran off. Do you think I was boring him? He was giving me bedroom eyes, we held eye contact. He wasn't looking away and he wasn't on his phone either. But I feel like I turned him off by my poor communication skills

 

It was his first time making a move on me, he got me on the spot and I wasn't prepared and neither him because he wasn't even asking me questions. Help?

[missmarple]

YOU asked most of the questions and you're worried that you turned HIM off? Seriously? I would be turned off if the other person just answered my questions and didn't ask me anything. If I have to be 'prepared' to just chat with someone, it's not worth the trouble...shy or not shy, he's the one with poor communication skills, not you...and a 'hi' doesn't count.

[greta96]

While yes, conversations can sometimes be a turnoff, I don't think that is the case here. True, it doesn't sound like he returns your crush, he was probably just making polite conversation and wasn't going to stick around long anyway. I do think though that you are reading too much into this interaction, I mean..."bedroom eyes"? One thing to remember is that most people will maintain eye contact when talking to you, and they won't be on their phones either - it's plain common sense, but that doesn't mean they are interested in anything more than a friendly conversation.

Relax, you did nothing wrong, don't overthink and if things are meant to happen, they will happen in due time.

[Wiseman2]

Don't put people on the spot by asking questions. Do a combination of revealing something about yourself, general small talk and what he thinks about something.

 

How is he "making a move on you"?

I asked most of the questions and he replied shortly. After a good 2-3 minutes, it went dead and then he ran off. It was his first time making a move on me

[aishatheduffer]

Wow sorry for the late reply. I wasn't asking any personal questions, it had to do about his english class. I knew already asking him personal questions would make him feel really uncomfortable and vulnerable. Yes you're right, next time i should probably reveal something about myself.

[Batya33]

Wow sorry for the late reply. I wasn't asking any personal questions, it had to do about his english class. I knew already asking him personal questions would make him feel really uncomfortable and vulnerable. Yes you're right, next time i should probably reveal something about myself.

 

It's not about being personal or revealing something personal -how about sharing an anecdote about an activity you're involved in or a movie you saw?

[aishatheduffer]

Yeah I could try doing that. I got caught up in the moment when he started talking to me so I couldn't really think properly. But next time i will definitely try doing that!