How to really move on

[tootie34]

I've gotten wayy past the beginning stages of the breakup with my child's father and I. But I find myself going to social media keeping tabs on he, his family, and his chick. Its a major habit and I feel like I'm shortening my blessings by doing so and hindering my progression as the woman I aspire to be. No doubt there is love and hope still there, but he and clearly want two different things and obvious he will probably never return as the man I would have loved him to be. How do you move forward, seriously? Peacefully, happily, just move forward?

[gebaird]

Can you block him on social media? If not, consider taking a social media sabbatical. If you feel that's too extreme, get an accountability buddy to follow up with you regularly and ask how you are doing with your social media stalking habit.

 

After a breakup there are two spaces that you need to fill: the space in your heart and the space in your life. You can fill the space in your life with activities, friends and self-improvement. Filling the empty space in your heart is a function of time and can be aided by therapy, a new romance (when you are ready), or a hobby that helps you process emotions such as serving others, petting baby animals, writing in a journal, etc.

[Wiseman2]

What was the breakup about? How long were you together? When did you break up? keep communication with him about your child. Avoid him otherwise and his social media so you can heal and move on.

 

Do you contact each other regarding child support and custody/visitation?

my child's father and I. No doubt there is love and hope still there, but he and clearly want two different things

[lostandhurt]

This guy has been using you for a long time so you need to cut the cord completely. No more legal advice, no more sex when he gets in a fight with his gf and no more being nice to him and caring for him when he is sick.

 

You need to be a little selfish here and look after yourself and your child. You also need to file for child support with the court. No more letting him bring by $25 bucks when he feels like it. I don't care if he doesn't have a job or not, he has a child that he needs to support and the court will make him do it.

 

Moving on requires that we stop looking behind us. When you climb stairs do you look forward to the next step or behind you to the ones you already took? Of course you look forward and concentrate on your next step because if you keep looking back you will fall all the way back down.

 

Stop looking back

 

Lost

[tootie34]

This guy has been using you for a long time so you need to cut the cord completely. No more legal advice, no more sex when he gets in a fight with his gf and no more being nice to him and caring for him when he is sick.

 

You need to be a little selfish here and look after yourself and your child. You also need to file for child support with the court. No more letting him bring by $25 bucks when he feels like it. I don't care if he doesn't have a job or not, he has a child that he needs to support and the court will make him do it.

 

Moving on requires that we stop looking behind us. When you climb stairs do you look forward to the next step or behind you to the ones you already took? Of course you look forward and concentrate on your next step because if you keep looking back you will fall all the way back down.

 

Stop looking back

 

Lost

This was beautiful. I've never looked at it that way and this was an excellent example of what should and should not take place. Thank you.