Not sure what to do please help

[Klynnb]

My ex and I broke up a little over 3 months ago. We talked for a week about a month ago and he disappeared. I told him I didn't want him to contact me again unless he was serious about his intentions but that I wouldn't guarentee I would be waiting around. A few weeks passed and he texted me wanting a helmet I had (bought for him last Christmas) I ignored the text message he waited 6 days and texted again today about it. He recently totaled his truck drinking and driving. I figure he only wants it back to sell for extra cash. I'm also a woman and I overthink. He has done this before asking for something I had of his and admitted he was using that as an excuse to see me because he missed me. So of course I feel like he misses me. Today is his birthday and the day his grandma died a few years ago. I was really close to her. I don't know if I should respond to him today or wait it out and see if he tried anymore to contact me. I'm just confused.

[Wiseman2]

If it belongs to him you need to give it back, it doesn't matter what you assume he wants it back for. Just keep the communication about the helmet and return it promptly.

he texted me wanting a helmet I had. I ignored the text message he waited 6 days and texted again today about it. I figure he only wants it back to sell for extra cash.

[Klynnb]

I had bought the helmet for him and have been nice enough not to ask him for the things he bought me. It's not about trying to keep what is his but he had forgotten all about it until now. Just don't want to risk opening a wound that's healing.

If it belongs to him you need to give it back, it doesn't matter what you assume he wants it back for. Just keep the communication about the helmet and return it promptly.

[Wiseman2]

Why play all these games? It doesn't matter if you don't want your stuff back, that doesn't make you a better person. If you want to make a tug-of-war out of the helmet to keep things going, then do that.

I had bought the helmet for him and have been nice enough not to ask him for the things he bought me.

[Wordsleftatsea]

Seems like he has his own demons to manage. Maybe he's just young idk. Maybe he just doesn't want to be alone and knows you have a soft spot for him. I went through what you did. Hell im still going through it. A man who loves you wouldn't have done the things he did to you. As far as the helmet goes I say keep it. Who cares? He clearly doesn't care about you so what is it really worth to him? It's not the opening of communication he cares about, it's just a helmet. Listen to your head be your heart. I feel for you. Be strong and don't forget the feeling.