Discussion amongst friend's over previous exes

[jkiss89]

I want to first say that I am not sure if this post belongs on this particular thread, and if I should post it in a more appropriate place than just let me know.

 

My friends and I had a discussion while out over the weekend over the past three relationships I have been in and I was wanting input from the online crowd. The basis of this discussion is that my last three relationships have all been at least 1 year long and once those relationships were over the girl that I had dated went to another man within less than a month of the break-up. I have no ill will towards any of these girls for doing so and I never really thought much of this but my friends were open to sorting out why my ex-girlfriends had a tendency to move on so fast. After all I suppose this is now becoming somewhat of a trend, if you can call it that.

 

Now let me say that because they are my friends they may not have been entirely truthful or maybe not wanting to hurt my feelings but both of them seemed to believe that because I am an overall great guy, and I believe I am, that the girls needed to latch onto whatever guy showed them attention afterwards because I left such a void in their lives. Now that's a compliment to say the least, and maybe that is possible, and they backed it up with their own personal experiences that maybe one of the six or so women they had dated moved on so quickly after a serious relationship. I guess I was just shocked that they believed this so thoroughly and that this literally came out of nowhere as far as the conversation had been prior to that.

 

Now being the one actually in these relationships I tried to take the other stance and tried to tell them that maybe by the end they just lost feelings for me which made it easier to just move onto the next guy. There was also the option I brought up that maybe these three girls were just serial daters that did not want to be alone, but we quickly shot that down as all three girls were single for at least a year prior to us dating. Eventually we all just settled on our differences of opinion and I let them think they were right so we could just move onto the next subject.

 

I don't really know if I have a legit question to ask, but I am just more into the discussion that if someone has something of a trend of their previous girlfriends/boyfriends quickly moving on than does that say anything about that person or not. Thanks for reading and don't hesitate to be nasty or terrible to me in your answer if you think you have good input because again, my friends, although coming from a good place, may not have been actually truthful

[Wiseman2]

Agree with this theory.

There was also the option I brought up that maybe these three girls were just serial daters that did not want to be alone

[jkiss89]

Definitely possible Wiseman, it is not something I really relate to, but I do know there are people out there that just hate to be alone and it might be possible that all three of these ladies are just that way, but being single for as long as they were prior to me left all of us wondering if that could be the case.

[Wiseman2]

Maybe you were the first in the ensuing series, lol.

Definitely possible Wiseman, it is not something I really relate to, but I do know there are people out there that just hate to be alone and it might be possible that all three of these ladies are just that way, but being single for as long as they were prior to me left all of us wondering if that could be the case.