randomtx88 Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 I saw my ex gf on Wednesday after almost 3 weeks of NC. She broke up with me a month ago. She has been really stressed with work and family in the past weeks, so I decided to go NC for a bit before trying to reach out to her. I asked if she's willing to try to go out again and take things slow but she says she doesn't want to right now. She said that she doesn't feel the same for me anymore and she can't say for sure if we'll get back together one day or not. We broke up because I wasn't comfortable with her close friendship with her ex. And when I asked her to stop talking to him, she felt pressured and after a few arguments over that issue she asked to take a break. She wanted time and space. I tried to convince her we could work this out, gave her some time and space, but after that she decided to break up. After our talk on Wednesday we hugged for a while and then we kissed. Why would she kiss someone she doesn't have feelings for? Monday is my birthday. I guess she'll reach out. Is it wrong for me to hope that she comes see me that day? She knows I'm not going out and celebrate. She knows I'll be at home. After spending almost every single day together for 7 months (except this past month where I only saw her like 3 times), is it wrong for me to hope that she comes see me and not just send me a happy birthday text? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 Unfortunately you broke up, so all bets are off. However you were right to wonder about this ex. Was she on the rebound? It would be best if she stated she doesn't want to get back together, to not date her.We broke up because I wasn't comfortable with her close friendship with her ex. and after a few arguments over that issue she asked to take a break. Monday is my birthday. Is it wrong for me to hope that she comes see me that day? Link to comment
randomtx88 Posted December 2, 2016 Author Share Posted December 2, 2016 Unfortunately you broke up, so all bets are off. However you were right to wonder about this ex. Was she on the rebound? It would be best if she stated she doesn't want to get back together, to not date her. She wasn't on the rebound. They broke up 2 years ago, and they both decided to just be friends. She said she has no feelings for him but he is just an important person in her life. She never wanted to tell me who this guy was because apparently her ex made her stop talking to all guys she had dated in the past, before him. So she didn't want that to happen again. But I was able to find out who her ex is, and once I did, I realized she still talked to him very often. She told me many times that he's just a friend and she has no feelings for him. He's just an important person in her life. I don't understand why people do it. I'm sure in her future relationship she will never tell her future bf who the ex is so that she won't be pressured in not talking to him. That's just not fair... Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 You're an ex now and want her to hang out for your bday. So you are now in the same boat as her other exes in the friendzone that she maybe hugs, kisses and hangs out with on their birthdays?I'm sure in her future relationship she will never tell her future bf who the ex is so that she won't be pressured in not talking to him. Link to comment
randomtx88 Posted December 2, 2016 Author Share Posted December 2, 2016 You're an ex now and want her to hang out for your bday. So you are now in the same boat as her other exes in the friendzone that she maybe hugs, kisses and hangs out with on their birthdays? You're right Wiseman. I guess, at this point is better if that I don't expect anything from her. It was a pretty passionate kiss, and I guess it just messed with my brain/feelings. I think the only thing I can do now to save dignity is to stick to NC. If she wishes me happy birthday, I'll simply say "thank you" and nothing more. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 Maybe she likes passion with exes more so than whoever the current guys are? Sounds like you dodged a bullet. It was a pretty passionate kiss, and I guess it just messed with my brain/feelings. Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 Maybe she likes passion with exes more so than whoever the current guys are? Sounds like you dodged a bullet. She probably just likes the attention and feeling of power Link to comment
adviceplease2 Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 She likes drama and attention. Try to move on quickly from this one, the dwelling will eat you alive. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted December 2, 2016 Share Posted December 2, 2016 There's no point in trying to get back together. The reason for the breakup (her friendliness with the ex) hasn't changed. Link to comment
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