Speechless

[Lillielondon]

Hi guys!

 

I am in 2 years relationship with my boyfriend everything going well but my boyfriend sister start to show her true colour..

For our 1st Christmas together my boyfriend offer me a beautiful necklace worth £180 and this year her sister asked my boyfreind (brother) to buy for her birthday a necklace from the same brand he bought mine and he did. I haven't said anything but wasn't sure what to think..

Christmas coming and my boyfriend ask me what I would like and I said I need a pair of boots and mention a simple ring(NOT engament)just a discret nice ring I could wear all the time coz I don't wear any. And last week we went shopping for Christmas and he asked her sister what she would like and she said a pair of boots or clothe or a ring!!! I was just speechless!!!! A ring??!!! She's got a boyfriend she could ask him to buy her a ring!!! Is it appropriate??!!

I need your opinion on that coz I don't know what to think!!!

I just feel like everything he bought me she want to have similar things...

[Seraphim]

He doesn't need to buy his sister rings for Christmas, that is bizaare. I would stay out of it though . The more you get into it with her or him the worse you will look .

[greta96]

I don't see anything inappropriate about that! He is her brother, therefore family, so she can ask for whatever she wants. Rings are not meant to be gifted by a significant other only, in fact it's best if boyfriends refrained from gifting their girlfriends rings unless or until they want to propose (or use it as a "promise ring").

[Longview01]

You know they're family right?

[Lillielondon]

Thanks Victoria You totally right!

[Lillielondon]

He doesn't need to buy his sister rings for Christmas, that is bizaare. I would stay out of it though . The more you get into it with her or him the worse you will look .

 

 

Thanks Victoria I think you totally right!

[RainyCoast]

i don't really get the title and interpretation of her behavior. "speechless"? she's "showing her true colors"? like, how are you interpreting this as some kind of hostility, does she behave hostile to you or what makes you see her gift-copying that way?

 

maybe she admires your taste. maybe she's one of those people who would like to make holiday shopping easier for others by telling them what she wants but has a difficult time coming up with something so she thought your ideas a good start?

 

do you all usually gift one another within this range? suggestions about what you want are helpful, i'd just be careful not to overwhelm him with demands.

[bunzana]

I don't see what the problem is... it's just a Christmas gift :s

[HeartGoesOn]

Who is "her sister?"

[Wiseman2]

What's wrong with him buying things for the family for Christmas? Who is "her sister"? Are you jealous of their relationship? Why are you competing with "her"?

last week we went shopping for Christmas and he asked her sister what she would like and she said a pair of boots or clothe or a ring! She's got a boyfriend she could ask him to buy her a ring!

[j.man]

You know you're asking for "basic" ****, right? It'd be like me pitching a fit because my girlfriend's brother asked for new socks and slippers. Come back when you ask for Top Gun Director's Cut and she asks for the same.

 

For the record, I wouldn't have a single problem buying my sister a ring as a gift. In fact, I'd be a lot more comfortable buying her one than a woman I wasn't preparing to pop the question to.