Very sad. Did she cheat?

[tsukitora]

My girl and I dated for over a year and we were living together. So you know the whole story, I'll say that I did tend to be controlling in the relationship and got jealous when she hung out with guy friends. Well one night she told me she was going to a town up north about an hour away to see her girlfriend and her family. She headed up the and I called her around 11. She answered and we talked for about 30 mins. She said how much she loved me etc. she came back early the next morning and climbed into bed. We started kissing and I noticed a strange smell on her breath. She said she had been drinking all night and ate fast food on the way home. We had sex multiple times that day

 

Anyways weeks pass and I have a sneaking suspicion that something happened. I did some looking in Facebook and saw some new friends she had added. They lived in the town she was at so I asked her about it. After some digging she finally admitted that she had lied to me and actually went up there to see her old guy friend. She said hey had met in tinder before we dated and hung out just as friends for a few months. She said she wanted to have fun with her friends like she used to and "have some control". She also explained that his friend was with them the whole night

 

Obviously I was very upset. Immediately got very mad and said we should break up. She was very upset and made multiple attempts to say that absolutely nothing happened between them sexually. She said she didn't want to tell me what she was actually doing because I have gotten so mad when she hangs with guy friends in the past.

 

She also said he slept on the couch and let her take his bed.

 

I've brought it up a few times since and she always gets annoyed I'm bringing it up and insists nothing happened

 

I have since moved out and we tried to make things work but we decided to take a break.

 

It's killing me wondering all the time if she cheated. Is the weird smell on her breath a sign of maybe oral sex? Would she even admit to me that something happened? I need some unbiased feedback

[Wiseman2]

That she lied and slept over some Tinder guy's house is incriminating enough regardless of bad breath. Good idea to move out since this is not the first or only issue.

she had lied to me and actually went up there to see her old guy friend. She said hey had met in tinder. She also said he slept on the couch and let her take his bed. Is the weird smell on her breath a sign of maybe oral sex?

[gebaird]

It sounds like there are issues on both sides -- you because of jealous and controlling behavior, her because of deception and possible cheating. Take ownership for your part and work on yourself so these patterns don't show up in your next relationship.

[pinkprincess]

From your previous posts this relationship has had more than its fair share of problems. she tends to play games and hides things from you however you have deep routed jealousy issues. whether its her hiding things and playing games thats heightens your jealousy or your jealousy that makes her hide things from you non the less this is a toxic relationship. A relationship is about bringing the best out in each other and having attributes that compliment each other in order to enhance yourself both as an individual and as a couple. You both seem to bring out the worst in each other which is not good for either of you and will only end up in hurt.

[RayF]

She's lying to you man... if she lies about seeing these tinder guys something happened. Put your foot down say you deserve better because you do.