Left again

[cryingalways]

So the guy I was seeing that I really liked has ended things now. I'm pretty damn sad.

 

As you know from earlier posts, I've been dealing with this awful cystitis which won't go since I slept with him. He said the reason for ending things is he thinks I like him more than he likes me (the exact opposite of what he had been telling me) and that something felt "missing" lately. I think it may be because I've been ill. Either that or he just did a three sixty and went from liking me to not liking me.

 

I feel ing awful. I'm ill and I've been dumped by someone I genuinely really liked. I don't know what the point is anymore.

[Ms Darcy]

I am sorry that you have been dumped. It always sucks.

 

Please don't date for a while this time. Take the time to let yourself heal physically and emotionally.

[Seraphim]

If he dumped you for making you sick in the first place he is not worth your time. I am sorry are feeling bad.

[Edmund Exley]

Well you learned a lot about his character by this, so consider yourself lucky.

[Batya33]

Unless you see a pattern in yourself -some way you act or don't act that might come across as too much too soon I'd agree you dodged a bullet (and you did anyway just wondering if there's some helpful insight here)

[cryingalways]

HE was WAY more keen than me! He was the one who asked me out and kept telling me he liked me more than I liked him! Then he just changed his opinion last night after I'd been ill and he's having work trouble. I gave him lots of space but I did tell him I liked him (which he was doing too for a good while) which he said made it seem like I liked him more cause he didn't feel like saying stuff like that back to me as it went on. I have heard from people he does this a lot, where he'll end things early on cause he thinks the other person isn't his soul mate. He's only had one relationship that lasted as long as a year, ages ago. And now I know why. He reeled me in then kicked me to the curb. That's exactly how it feels. And yes he is the one who made me ill and it just seems to have put him off me.

[JRP]

It sucks but the reality is that people can easily say something and not mean it. Him saying how much he liked you might have been his way of gaining your trust and intimacy. AS the old saying goes, actions speak louder than words....and they really do.

 

I have had so many relationships (serious and casual) where things have been said that are just not true based on how they act.

 

 

Im sorry you feel like you do, its sucks so bad I know But try to move on, and time will heal all. When you feel better get out there and do things for YOU and only YOU. Friends, family. hobbies, holiday, work, whatever it is. When you are ready concentrate on finding someone who is right for you. You'll be fine

[nutbrownhare]

HE was WAY more keen than me! He was the one who asked me out and kept telling me he liked me more than I liked him! Then he just changed his opinion last night after I'd been ill and he's having work trouble. I gave him lots of space but I did tell him I liked him (which he was doing too for a good while) which he said made it seem like I liked him more cause he didn't feel like saying stuff like that back to me as it went on. I have heard from people he does this a lot, where he'll end things early on cause he thinks the other person isn't his soul mate. He's only had one relationship that lasted as long as a year, ages ago. And now I know why. He reeled me in then kicked me to the curb. That's exactly how it feels. And yes he is the one who made me ill and it just seems to have put him off me.

 

He sounds like someone who enjoys the romance and excitement of a new relationship, but lacks the maturity to stay when it reaches the stage where you're genuinely getting to know each other... and actually start a REAL relationship. More about this kind of character here: [url="

 

This isn't about you. A guy who dumps you when you're ill isn't someone you want to be involved with, either. Give yourself time and space to heal, and just make sure you're really nice to yourself.

[Ms Darcy]

I mean, it's really hard to say if it's his maturity (or lack thereof) or if he just hasn't found the right person. I mean, yes it's immature to go all in so soon but that doesn't mean that relationship must result in a long term one.

 

That's why we always have to recognize the need to take things slow in the beginning and know there is always a risk things could end.

[Loralora]

Nevermind him, he doesn't seem worth your time! The problem seems to be him not you since he does this to everybody..

 

Did you ever figure out what is the correct diagnosis; I read your previous post is it cystitits or something else?

[cryingalways]

I don't know what it is yet. I will hopefully find out soon, maybe a couple weeks