Did I do something wrong ?

[Keegeee22]

I been dating this guy for 2 months now that I really like. He shows me that he likes me but sometimes we have days where he can be distance or I can be. He told me that he feels like I don't care and he feels like he should stop trying. I do care and probably don't show as much as he would like me to. But I'm trying to be more open but it can be hard for me since I don't exactly where this is going. We are both 25. He has 2 kids and the mother of he's kids still wants to be with him. I never dated a guy with kids so it's kinda scares me a little bit. He told he needed time a week ago because he was having drama with the mother of he's kids and she was already investigating who he's been talking to. He told me he didn't want bring drama to my life and I shouldn't have to put with it since Im still young and don't have kids. Well that lasted a day cause we started talking again. He can be very jealous and sometimes tries to joke or laugh about it but I know it bugs him. He is the only guy I'm talking to . A guy that I used date txt while we were on a date and he saw the txt .I mention this guy to him before . When he asked I told the truth and said remember that guy I used to talk to well he contact me because I contact him because I needed help with something. He asked me why I didn't asked him for help . I know it bothers him because for the rest of the night he was really quiet and you can tell he was still trying to enjoy the rest of night but was in he's head a lot . Now this other guy we dated for a while we never kissed or were intimate we would just go on dates and hang out a lot especially since we both went to the same school. I don't have feelings for that guy I know it might look shady that contact him but really it was only because I needed help and he helped me the last time I needed help. We'll since he drop me off he's been acting distance and only contacted me today asking if I had block him of instagram and I told no that I had deactivated it. I have two accounts I personal and business one and my business one is still up and I log into today and look up he's page and notice that he block me. And now I'm freaking out I haven't told him that I know that he block me. I txted him earlier he was replying short txt and eventually just stop replying. Now I don't know what to think ..

[Andrina]

Why would you stay in a beginning relationship when you've found out there is drama with the ex? Yes, you don't need that toxicity in your life. Also, at your young age, you have a huge pool of single men to choose from. His finances will also be stretched thin with child support payments. I find it rude to be texting others when you're on a date. I'd suggest putting it away so you can fully engage with the person you're on a date with.

 

My suggestion is to date someone with less drama and financial constraints in their life.

[Edmund Exley]

Sounds like way too much teenage drama. On both parts.

[Hollyj]

Sounds like he is still involved with the ex.

 

Move on.

[Keegeee22]

Why would you stay in a beginning relationship when you've found out there is drama with the ex? Yes, you don't need that toxicity in your life. Also, at your young age, you have a huge pool of single men to choose from. His finances will also be stretched thin with child support payments. I find it rude to be texting others when you're on a date. I'd suggest putting it away so you can fully engage with the person you're on a date with.

 

My suggestion is to date someone with less drama and financial constraints in their life.

 

I wasn't texting during the date . He just happened to reply at that time .. but I understand what you're saying all my friends tell me that I guess cause I like the dude and enjoy he's company but deep down I know I'm setting my self up for failure

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. 2 mos in is for getting to know each other and seeing if there is a good fit. What was he implying with "you don't care enough"? He wants more sex?

 

You may want to think twice about that remark not to mention all the divorce and baby mama drama. Being jealous and controlling even in jest are just more red flags here. If he failed to introduce the exclusivity talk why are you confessing anything about who you talk to?

 

Unfortunately even at only 8 wks there is a rather large collection of red flags. Seriously consider dumping this guy, he's bad news on so many levels. You actually seem afraid of/intimidated by him. Why?

I been dating this guy for 2 months. He told me that he feels like I don't care and he feels like he should stop trying. He told he needed time a week ago because he was having drama with the mother of he's kids. asking if I had block him of instagram and I told no that I had deactivated it.

[DancingFool]

Please read carefully what Wiseman wrote. I fully agree with him that there are so many bad red flags with this guy, I kind of lost count half way through your post. He is already showing you jealousy, controlling, manipulative (you don't care enough) already divorced with kids, ex drama (keep in mind it takes two to create that so he is not an innocent in that) hot and cold....yikes. Run just run. This guy is really bad news.

[Keegeee22]

I think what he meant by that I don't care is that .. I can go the whole day with out texting (cause I'm busy) I'm never been the type to be clingy . He can txt all day .. I don't think hes talking about sex . He was never married but he does come with drama and I told my self that he is bad news when we first talked. But unfortunately I enjoyed he's company and now we are 2 months in. I know that's not long but feelings are growing . He is controlling and very jealous and that's one thing I don't like .. and even my friends tell me it's to soon for him to act that way. You're probably right I should end this now before I get hurt.

[Edmund Exley]

So now because your 2 months in you don't see the red flags and aren't willing to slam on the brakes?

 

Controlling and jealous after only 2 months is exactly why you need to put an end to this one.

[Wiseman2]

It sounds like the baby mama made the right choice to dump this controlling creep. Sorry you "enjoyed he's company" and are willing to tolerate the trash she intelligently threw out.

 

Cut your losses and read up on 'warning signs of controlling relationships'. Jealousy is not cute nor an indication of his desire for you. It's a major personality defect and a red flag. You can do better than this, no? Cut your losses before you get attached and sucked into this.

I can go the whole day with out texting. he does come with drama and I told my self that he is bad news when we first talked. He is controlling and very jealous and that's one thing I don't like.

[HeartGoesOn]

He told he needed time a week ago because he was having drama with the mother of he's kids and she was already investigating who he's been talking to.

 

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Obviously the writing is on the wall, meaning he's hiding you because he's currently involved with the mother of his children. In short, nothing good will come from this, except heartbreak on your end.

[Keegeee22]

Yeah I'm just being dumb .. that's the first thing that across my when he told me he needed time ..

[Keegeee22]

He makes it seem like he the one that ended things cause he tells me she still wants to work things out but he don't want to cause she has a bad attitude and he was unhappy in the relationship. But him being controlling is definitely a big red flag. He gets mad but later tells me just do whatever I want that he don't care but clearly acts like it bothers him . I like to go out and have drinks on weekends and if I go out without him he acts diffrent towards me . But I still go out because we're not official and I'm not easily controlled. I understand once you're in relationship you have to slow down or even stop the party life/ single living . But since we're just dating I don't see why he has a problem with it.