So confused with mixed signals, help!

[kitkat95]

I've been working with this guy for 3 years. He is in a relationship with a girl and I'm in a relationship with a guy. We all work together (except my bf) he asked me if I ever thought if I was a bad kisser and I said no. But then he said you wouldn't know unless you kissed a friend who could be totally honest with you about it. Then he said he would do it with a close friend just to see. But the thing is why even bring that up with me? I mean come on, you know if youre a good kisser or not right?! And he kept talking about it too. Is it a signal or is he just being general in that topic. So lost.

[SooSad33]

Huh?... signal.. for what?

 

You're both involved with other people....

 

And... you work with him? Geeze... No.

[kitkat95]

I'm not sure but I'm attracted to him. My relationship has been hanging on a thread for a long time and I think I'm going to end it. And why would he say finding out if you're a good kisser can only happen with a friend? Especially if he's taken. It's just confusing. I would never do anything of course, but I just don't get his reasoning

[kitkat95]

Huh?... signal.. for what?

 

You're both involved with other people....

 

And... you work with him? Geeze... No.

I'm not sure but I'm attracted to him. My relationship has been hanging on a thread for a long time and I think I'm going to end it. And why would he say finding out if you're a good kisser can only happen with a friend? Especially if he's taken. It's just confusing. I would never do anything of course, but I just don't get his reasoning

[Rising100]

Figure out if your relationship is worth it and if u want to fix it.

If not then end it and do the other person a favor.

 

But dont hang in there and lead someone on if u are not gonna be in it fully.

This other guy at work, shouldnt even be an issue and we shouldnt even waste our time talking about him unless you want to do something with him.

Make up your mind and make your decision.

[greta96]

And why would he say finding out if you're a good kisser can only happen with a friend? Especially if he's taken. It's just confusing. I would never do anything of course, but I just don't get his reasoning

 

Because he's not the brightest bulb in the tree and a very bad flirt? On top of the cheating of course (if this is what he's trying to do).

One doesn't find out if they're a good kisser by kissing a friend, that's the dumbest thing I've heard! With friends there's no passion, so kissing a friend is completely different from kissing someone you are involved with romantically. If he wants to kiss you "as a friend", it means he wants to get a little thrill and ego boost by "harmlessly" cheating on his girlfriend - ya what a charmer!

Be careful about ending your current relationship over this dimwit, as he has painted you a very clear picture of how he'll be if you are unlucky enough to become his girlfriend. And from where I stand, that's not a position I would envy.

 

I'm not saying this is what he's doing, it may have just been a meaningless, silly thing to say. But if it is the way you want it to be, don't be too flattered because it's not flattering. At all.

[kitkat95]

Because he's not the brightest bulb in the tree and a very bad flirt? On top of the cheating of course (if this is what he's trying to do).

One doesn't find out if they're a good kisser by kissing a friend, that's the dumbest thing I've heard! With friends there's no passion, so kissing a friend is completely different from kissing someone you are involved with romantically. If he wants to kiss you "as a friend", it means he wants to get a little thrill and ego boost by "harmlessly" cheating on his girlfriend - ya what a charmer!

Be careful about ending your current relationship over this dimwit, as he has painted you a very clear picture of how he'll be if you are unlucky enough to become his girlfriend. And from where I stand, that's not a position I would envy.

 

I'm not saying this is what he's doing, it may have just been a meaningless, silly thing to say. But if it is the way you want it to be, don't be too flattered because it's not flattering. At all.

You're definitely right. We've always been attracted to each other but chose other people to be with so I know when he brought that up it was wrong and sort of awkward. But at the same time I liked it because I've been arguing with my boyfriend for a while. I just needed to let it out to someone.

[Wiseman2]

I would sidestep that type of remark from a coworker faster than a racehorse.

he asked me if I ever thought if I was a bad kisser and I said no. But then he said you wouldn't know unless you kissed a friend who could be totally honest with you about it.

[SooSad33]

Okay.. so you & your bf have been arguing.. not happy? Get out of it.. but you don't go leaning towards a coworker who gives you a bit of attention.

Back off and deal with your own life & issue's. he is a coworker and is already involved-- respect that.

[Rising100]

I would sidestep that type of remark from a coworker faster than a racehorse.

 

I know right, bro a coworker, damn.

My friend/coworker used to tickle me but kissing is something else

[Lucha]

His seemingly attempts at flirting are not what they seem. They are mere random sayings of a probably not very mature guy which your brain has been paying more attention to, because things in your current rs are a little rocky. It is called selectional bias.

 

Just see those things the way they are: random dumb expressions from one in relationship involved person to another.