Should I text her or not after she cancelled 2nd date?

[celticfire]

I’ve never asked a question on here before so here it goes as I’m interested in the responses

 

So I met this girl on tinder and we got on really well in communicating with each other, banter and all with flirting.

So we set up our first date and we meet in a good bar. All really goes well, as we start to initially get interested in each other, body language was great, allot of eye contact and touching, and the laughs were great as we got closer. There were times the conversation between each other got deeper and then changed dramatically to humour and again more laughs before touching started. Several times she mentioned that she liked my company and at one point mentioned that if I missed my train home I could share a taxi as it was on the same way to where I live. Anyway we stay out longer and head to a few bars and she goes on about her life more and tells me about her job. She tells me about her life and part time cake making business and that she had 4 cakes to make in one week so life was busy but great.

 

A Few hours go by and the conversations continue and the connection and similarities between us was rather similar but attractive. We eventually head for a taxi and I ask her about meeting up for another date, she responds with a definite yes and arranges for the next Saturday after a wedding that she was attending. I kiss her before getting out of the taxi to go home and politely texted her to say thank you for a great night and that I hope she got home ok.

 

Anyway to cut a long story short. I received a text back the next morning saying that Saturday would be hard pushed after a wedding and her cake making week, so she mentioned Sunday instead so I said ok.

 

A day goes by when I get another message saying that she would have to cancel Sunday and is sorry but is really busy and hectic trying to get 4 cakes made in one week and that she also had to get ready for a job interview the following Tuesday. I responded with that’s ok; “we can re-schedule for another time and let me know when you’re free”.

 

I get a few more responses with a thank you for understanding and that she promised to text to arrange a date once her interview on Tuesday and cakes were done and makes a few jones before finally saying have a good weekend. There were allot of kisses in the message and the message seemed to have decent reason and apology but there also seemed to be to many excuses as well.

 

At that point there was no more reason to message with anymore questions so I responded with a hope the job goes well and that I hoped her cakes were done in time and to not worry about the Sunday as we can reschedule when she was free. So I decided to let her be alone and do what she said she was doing.

 

So 6 days have gone by and no message to re-schedule. At this point my gut feeling is telling me that I’ve done what I could have done and not to message again as she cancelled and I was the last to message without any response.

 

I’m happy to send another message, however the above mentioned feels like a bail out card and to send another message seems pointless.

So what do you think? I am disappointed as I liked this lass and in the game of dating if two people like each other they will let each other know?

[notalady]

Yep do nothing. She said she will let you know so balls in her court. After 6 days of hearing nothing, I'd say she's not interested.

[cdtsilva]

Why don't you call her? You can say something like: 'I was thinking on you and just wanted to check everything was alright' since you didn't heard from her in a few days.

 

Its polite, doesn't sound as needy and she will kinda appreciate.

 

Sometimes life gets quite out of control with work and you need that 'push' - If you don't text her you too sound as uninterested, and that could be a test she's making. Girls are awkward and think with hearth rather than logic... SO nothing to loose, give it a try. Call her, don't text her.

 

If she still doesn't care, well, you'll know she found someone else... It happens, a lot...

[BrokenGator]

I would text and ask if her how the cakes and job interview went without asking about a second date.

[missmarple]

I wouldn't do anything at this point. If she's not interested or too busy to even send you a text message, you'll achieve nothing.

[celticfire]

Thanks for the comments all. What everyone has said makes sense on all levels really. I have decided to just delete her number and move on as I have thought about it and the amount of excuses given without any hint of another set date is clear enough for me. No messages back from her and it’s been 10 days since our last date is really a clear signal that her are low or not there. I am annoyed as I'm one for honesty and been truthful but to be honest I deserve better and it really says allot about a person who can't be authentic when it comes to the dating game. So without been hung up like fish bait wondering what I might have done wrong as I know I did everything a man should do I've cut the line and thought na, there's plenty of women out there who'd be happy to show an interest.

Dating is about finding that someone you want to be with and shouldn’t be a game as the we Irish put it…Feck it.

[sd95]

sounds like she is looking for a quiet exit out of the situation to me so I would just move on.

[JaggerJim]

People act different in person. While she acted one way in person, obviously she's another in private. I'd take her silence as your cue to move on.

 

But remember, it works both ways. You may find you may do the same thing on another date with another woman. Act different in person, another in private.....and so on. And so on.....

 

We all do it.

[sd95]

People act different in person. While she acted one way in person, obviously she's another in private. I'd take her silence as your cue to move on.

 

But remember, it works both ways. You may find you may do the same thing on another date with another woman. Act different in person, another in private.....and so on. And so on.....

 

We all do it.

 

 

I definitely done it in hopes that the person would get the hint after a few days.

[Creacion]

I'm not sure which country you're in but in Australia, Tinder's known as the hookup site with bad publicity. A recent article about a guy hooking up with a girl for sex on Tinder and she falls to her death after being locked out on a balcony in the Gold Coast.

 

I think you should consider yourself lucky to not get a second date. Trust your gut instincts.

[TiredOfDating]

I'm not sure which country you're in but in Australia, Tinder's known as the hookup site with bad publicity. A recent article about a guy hooking up with a girl for sex on Tinder and she falls to her death after being locked out on a balcony in the Gold Coast.

 

I think you should consider yourself lucky to not get a second date. Trust your gut instincts.

 

 

Tinder gets a bad rap in the US as well. I've heard it called the "hookup app" but my friend had good luck with it (as far as guys wanting to actually GO ON A DATE vs meet up for sex), and after 2 years of bad luck (people wanting hookups but lying on profiles and saying they want LTR) on another site, I had much better luck on Tinder within just a few days of signing up. I met my current boyfriend on Tinder.