Day 16 of NC and feeling sad

[vmrhine18]

Without going into a whole bunch of details I decided to cut ties with a man that I have been romantically involved with for the past year. We were never a couple but I fell in love with him and he told me he loved me as well. Due to certain circumstances in our life we were never actually able to become an official couple. I very much love him but felt like he was starting to string me along. We did have a couple instances where things got physical and then he would become distant. I was tired of the back and forth and tired of feeling used so on November 7th I confronted him and asked him what this was. He didn't have a clear answer for me and I felt like he was pushing me away again so I decided that day that I would start no contact and try to move on from this. The first week was a breeze but this week I'm extremely sad/angry/hurt. I do miss him and miss our daily text conversations. I want so badly to reach out to him but then know I'll just be hurting worse because it won't go how I want it to. I'm angry that it has been so easy for him to not contact me and that he probably lied to me about loving me. I could use some words of encouragement as I'm just feeling so heartbroken. I will for sure stick to NC even though it's killing me inside. I just want to move on and feel better.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. Were either of you married? Was this a LDR? Why were you "never a couple"?

 

Good you ended it if you felt it was in limbo and not going anywhere. Stay no contact and block him from everything.

Due to certain circumstances in our life we were never actually able to become an official couple. We did have a couple instances where things got physical and then he would become distant. I'm angry that it has been so easy for him to not contact me and that he probably lied to me about loving me.

[Roselynn1]

Sorry you're going thru this. I'm in your shoes and can relate. Don't ever let anyone string you along - it's not worth it. Sometimes it takes us awhile to come to terms with what's really going on but once you know cut them loose. NC is the right thing to do. It probably doesn't feel like it because you're hurting now but staying NC is the best answer - it's actually the only answer. You can't heal when you're in contact with the source of your pain. You deserve to be with someone who loves and values you. And if he can't do that then his loss.

[rtyu4567]

Without going into a whole bunch of details I decided to cut ties with a man that I have been romantically involved with for the past year. We were never a couple but I fell in love with him and he told me he loved me as well. Due to certain circumstances in our life we were never actually able to become an official couple. I very much love him but felt like he was starting to string me along. We did have a couple instances where things got physical and then he would become distant. I was tired of the back and forth and tired of feeling used so on November 7th I confronted him and asked him what this was. He didn't have a clear answer for me and I felt like he was pushing me away again so I decided that day that I would start no contact and try to move on from this. The first week was a breeze but this week I'm extremely sad/angry/hurt. I do miss him and miss our daily text conversations. I want so badly to reach out to him but then know I'll just be hurting worse because it won't go how I want it to. I'm angry that it has been so easy for him to not contact me and that he probably lied to me about loving me. I could use some words of encouragement as I'm just feeling so heartbroken. I will for sure stick to NC even though it's killing me inside. I just want to move on and feel better.

 

Good for you, you know what you want and deserve. No one should feel used and stringed along. Seems, like you have awareness as to what the outcome would be contacting him, keep that up front, stay in reality as you are doing, be proud of yourself for taking the appropriate steps on moving forward. No, it is not going to be easy, but worth it. I too have moment when it feels like it's killing me inside, but it is getting better, and it will get better for you too. Broken hearts are not easy that's for sure. But I am confident that once we get over the hump and stick our ground we will be fine and eventually have a healthy relationship first, with our selves and then with someone down the road. In the meantime, try to focus on you and practice self care. We don't know what they are feeling or thinking for sure, so speculating on their emotions during NC is just taking away from focusing on the positive for us. I know easier said than done, but doable none the less. You are moving on, give yourself a thumbs up! And with time you will feel better, little by little, be patient there are good things to come.

[SooSad33]

Been there.. two were like this

I too cut contact.. as with him.. he led me on a number of times in one year.. finally i said enough! he got put down the next time he tried.

Then the guy after him basically took advantage of me for about 6 weeks.. then went silent? Only to contact me 2 mos later.. like wth!? he too got told.

 

To me, love is not a game.. and sadly, it's the women who get emotionally involved, faster than they do... *sigh*

 

Always take care of YOU. If they are so unstable.. we can't fix them. And surely dont take advantage of us this way....

[coolgirl]

I am going through the same exact thing myself. Although my NC has been 3 months because I'm the one who decided to end stuff with a man 1. I have not seen, 2,pushing me away, 3,being lead on 4,lying to me about his intention, so those things your feeling is exactly normal I still to this day have those feelings as well. As much as its killing me inside too wanting to pick up the phone and call him looking for answers is just going to put fume on fire. He and I were never a couple either. I know it's hard and believe me I have my moments till this day.

 

Give yourself time, take a break from it, just focus on you, hang out with friends just occupy yourself somehow. Hope this helps.

[Edmund Exley]

I just want to move on and feel better.

 

Stop counting the days.