Heartbroken239 Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 I have been super close friends with this girl for a couple of years. She is super caring. She probably cares about me way more than I care about her because she always takes the initiative to help me with everything. Because of our closeness, the inevitable question of if I like her came up, I said yes and she refused. But I am 100% sure, I can convince her to go on a date with me. Hanging out with each other alone is nothing new for us, she always takes me out for dinners when she gets paid so these are normal things. So here's my point, if I take her for date, arrange everything the way she likes ( of course, I know what she likes and doesn't very very well! ), do you think she can look at me differently? Can one date get me out of friendzone? Link to comment
SooSad33 Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 Well.. if she has already said 'no', then i'd say that's it. Could be sh doesn't want to go beyond that- will very possibly ruin what you've already got.. a friendship. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 Unfortunately she already told you she sees you as a friend only. Does she know you are dating someone else? Clearly the PUA strategies aren't working in this case and as usual are backfiring and catapulting you to the friendzone.rejected me plus told me nothing can ever happen, that's annoying and challenging! Fakely dating - Another girl really loves me and I love the way she treats me so I am dating her. Tensions create attraction, ignoring, being a bit rude, confusing, creates tension which either breaks or makes. Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 They say a woman will generally decide whether she wants to date you or not pretty much from the start. Sure, you may be able to charm your way out of the friendzone, but generally its an exercise in futility. Link to comment
happyfrank Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 She may just see you as a brother since you know her for years. Sorry Man. Link to comment
Heartbroken239 Posted November 21, 2016 Author Share Posted November 21, 2016 Yea she does know I am dating someone else! I am not sure if my strategies failed, because I was ignoring her, she texted me.. Lol I always feel human emotions are changeable, I didn't like her myself even once in four years, now I think she is attractive, so why can't this happen with her! Despite all the knowledge we have, we still haven't been able to prove any certain distinct rules on how our mind and brains work! Plus if I don't get to date her, I don't think I will want to talk to her anyway so I am not afraid of ruining anything, I am a handsome guy, I have never had a lack of female attention! Link to comment
Heartbroken239 Posted November 21, 2016 Author Share Posted November 21, 2016 It's so difficult to get rejected from her, because she literally does anything I ask her to do, so I am not used to hearing a "no" from her! That's why my question, I am 100% sure she'll still go on one date with me, so how do I make the best use of one date? Link to comment
Heartbroken239 Posted November 21, 2016 Author Share Posted November 21, 2016 She broke up with her boyfriend who she liked and still misses just coz he asked her to talk to me less and talk to him more! Plus she has always found me handsome, she is always the first to notice a new cologne I am wearing, or a new hairstyle, or even the small changes... it's not that she thinks I am ugly.. Pretty much everyone thinks she loves me madly! I have no idea why on earth she even rejected me! Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 i have been super close friends with this girl for a couple of years. She is super caring. she probably cares about me way more than i care about her because she always takes the initiative to help me with everything. Because of our closeness, the inevitable question of if i like her came up, i said yes and she refused. But i am 100% sure, i can convince her to go on a date with me. Hanging out with each other alone is nothing new for us, she always takes me out for dinners when she gets paid so these are normal things. So here's my point, if i take her for date, arrange everything the way she likes ( of course, i know what she likes and doesn't very very well! ), do you think she can look at me differently? Can one date get me out of friendzone? yip.nice one. Link to comment
Heartbroken239 Posted November 21, 2016 Author Share Posted November 21, 2016 So my question stands - how to make the best use of the one date I have with her? Its either win or lose so I need suggestions and advice! Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 She may go with you as friends even though you think it's a "date". Except when it comes to dating/sex 239;6694766]I am not used to hearing a "no" from her Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 I hope she says no. You already have a girlfriend. Link to comment
Heartbroken239 Posted November 21, 2016 Author Share Posted November 21, 2016 I will tell her we are going on a "date" specifically! I know she will go anytime with me to anywhere as a "friend"! Yea, and I told my girlfriend that I need to hear from this girl that she likes me just because she rejected me! She said it's fine till I don't break up with her, so both of us are cool with it! I don't hide anything from my girlfriend. I literally send her most of my conversations! Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 I will tell her we are going on a "date" specifically! I know she will go anytime with me to anywhere as a "friend"! Yea, and I told my girlfriend that I need to hear from this girl that she likes me just because she rejected me! She said it's fine till I don't break up with her, so both of us are cool with it! I don't hide anything from my girlfriend. I literally send her most of my conversations! Are you for real? This is not how you treat woman. Link to comment
Heartbroken239 Posted November 21, 2016 Author Share Posted November 21, 2016 I am honestly not planning to date this girl, and I am not planning to break up with my girlfriend or cheat on her ( I don't want anything physical from his this girl! ), I just don't want to feel rejected by a girl who would do anything at my whims and commands till now! Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 I am honestly not planning to date this girl, and I am not planning to break up with my girlfriend or cheat on her ( I don't want anything physical from his this girl! ), I just don't want to feel rejected by a girl who would do anything at my whims and commands! You have no whims and commands. Time to grow up! Link to comment
Heartbroken239 Posted November 21, 2016 Author Share Posted November 21, 2016 Ok fine, I will grow up if this girl realizes how angry I am at her and she stops texting me!! I don't want to see her face, all I want is to hear that she likes me, if not that, I don't care we were BFFs.. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 Is imaginary slavery some sort of game in your country/culture..hahaII just don't want to feel rejected by a girl who would do anything at my whims and commands till now! Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 So my question stands - how to make the best use of the one date I have with her? Its either win or lose so I need suggestions and advice! OMFG, you are a jerk! You have a GF! Your poor gf. Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 He has Whimms and Commands! Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 I will tell her we are going on a "date" specifically! I know she will go anytime with me to anywhere as a "friend"! Yea, and I told my girlfriend that I need to hear from this girl that she likes me just because she rejected me! She said it's fine till I don't break up with her, so both of us are cool with it! I don't hide anything from my girlfriend. I literally send her most of my conversations! So are you saying you have an open relationship? Does this girl you are trying to "woo" know this? Link to comment
Heartbroken239 Posted November 21, 2016 Author Share Posted November 21, 2016 Yes, she knows; the girl I am trying to woo is like my BFF, we have always known each other crushes, bfs/gfs.. Link to comment
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