It's easy to get confused about a break up

[KantSleep]

Hi there. I posted the other day about how "I" screwed up my relationship and how we are on a "break", initiated by him - and how heart broken I am. The truth is I am heartbroken, because despite the stuff I endured (ex drama, etc.), I love this man. So, I just typed a 2 page doc to myself on the crap I sucked up for the past year or so. I was stupid enough to sit around and allow myself to be the loser despite knowing that what I was experiencing was not right. I have learned my lesson the hard way. Because I fell in love, I kept going back for more, when the red flags were flying high, thinking my love would conquer all. All the while my anxiety was churning and I was slowly falling apart emotionally. I have only myself to blame for letting this go on as along as it did. For those of you who think the relationship broke up because of YOU, write yourself a letter. Type all stuff you endured that WAS NOT RIGHT, that did not HONOR YOU and your position as your mate's partner. It may help. Try to think clearly about what REALLY happened. Forget the love aspect. Write down the hard, indisputable facts. Maybe it will help you recover quicker from break up hell - and learn to leave sooner than later, if such action is necessary the next relationship. Trust your instincts. Just my two cents.

[Roselynn1]

Girl, your two cents counts for a lot! You are absolutely right, we put up with a lot in the name of love sometimes. But there comes a time when your self respect is being compromise that you're gonna be like enough of this. I'm not dealing with this ----anymore. And that's when you realize that if this person really loved you, you wouldn't be going thru all this crap. And you'll walk away because love shouldn't hurt.

[Kaykayxo]

So true OP. I think more women than not experience a love like this at least once in their lives, whether it is a short fling or dragged out for years. Often the men in these situations are easily disguised and their manipulative behavior is sporadic, thus sucking their victim into a cycle. At the end of the day the problem lies within themselves and their own deep rooted insecurities...no women on the way can change that until the man fixes up on his own accord. I wish you the best of luck in finding a man whom takes care of your heart as he would his own.

[SooSad33]

Sometimes it really sucks to have feelings

 

Keep going... you can do it.