Should I get rid of his gifts now that I healed from the breakup?

[Mira223]

I have been in this beautiful relationship earlier this year. It was 6 months long but I don't believe in quantity as much as quality. It was great and I was truly happy and I can tell he was too. Till he ended it someday our of the blue. Anyways, I was kinda devastated and thought the sky was falling and am sure you guys know what I mean. Truns out it was the worst and the best thing that has ever happened to me in my entire life.

 

I learned SO MUCH from this and the amount of self love I developed is unbelievable. Am truly thankful that something that broke me down that hard actually made me this bigger and better and stronger and even happier version of me; something I never thought would happen.

 

Anyways, it has been almost 6 month since the break up and I think I've come a long way in my healing process. When we broke up I gathered all the gifts and stuff and put them somewhere I can't see them. Now I feel like am ready to get rid of them. But I don't know why am i hesitating, I keep thinking that this was a beautiful part of my life and that it changed and affected me drastically and is a living proof that the light does really enter us through our wounds.

 

I won't just throw them away, I thought about giving each gift individually to random kids I meet in the street, like his shirts and the dream catchers and bracelets and rings and flowers and stuff. I even thought about hanging some of those at random areas in the city. I know it sounds weird lol, but I feel like I can do something beautiful out of these like making a kid happy or adding to the beauty of the streets. Maybe throw some of them in the ocean.

 

Will I regret this? Should i keep them as memories from a relationship I once had and someone I once loved?

 

I know am over him. It used to hurt so damn much one day, but now he is just a nice memory in the back of my head.

[Wiseman2]

Memorializing the gifts seems odd, especially hanging them up around a public area like random litter.

 

Why not just keep what you want and either donate the rest and/or throw it out?

I thought about giving each gift individually to random kids I meet in the street, like his shirts and the dream catchers and bracelets and rings and flowers and stuff. I even thought about hanging some of those at random areas in the city

[JaggerJim]

If you love the gifts I would keep them. I've kept different things over the years. It's nice to have the memories.

[j.man]

I even thought about hanging some of those at random areas in the city. I know it sounds weird lol

Yes. Yes it does. Don't do that.

 

Just round the stuff up and drop them off at a local non-profit thrift shop. Memorializing (to steal Wiseman's terming) his gifts is borderline spooky.

 

Ultimately, if you feel like they're hindering your progress (and it very much sounds like they are), it's best to get rid of the gifts.

 

Personally, there's no way I'd ever get rid of my expensive blender / food processor combo my girlfirend got me should we ever break up. It just makes salsa easy! But there are few people out there who care as little as I do about symbolism.

[ThatwasThen]

Sell the rings (or have them re-designed using the same stones, keep and wear them IF they are worth it) and give the rest of the things to Goodwill or the Salvation Army Thrift Shop.

 

I agree with the others that handing them out to random kids isn't appropriate. Throwing them in the ocean although may be cathartic to you, isn't environmentally friendly.

[melancholy123]

Keep anything that is special to you because you like it rather than that "he" gave it to you and either sell the rest or donate to a women's shelter if appropriate or the local thrift shop. Dont throw good things in the trash if someone else can use them.