My boyfriend ignores me at the movies.

[Beaib]

When we go out on dates, my boyfriend's attitude bothers me.

 

For instance, today I met him at the movies. He did not greet me with any kind of affection or even make eye contact. As soon as I got there, he just headed toward the theater like he just expected me to follow him.

 

During the movie, he would laugh at his friend's comments. However, whenever I made a comment (which was not often) he would not even respond to me. When I tried to hold his hand, he would reciprocate for a few seconds and then brush me off. He always acts this way at the movies. His excuse is that he's trying to "analyze the movie" and doesn't want to be distracted.

 

I don't see the point in going to the movies with someone if you're just going to ignore each other. Whenever I go to the movies with him, I feel like I might as well have gone by myself. And, like I said, he doesn't ignore his friends, just his girlfriend.

 

When I try to communicate about this problem, he says that he doesn't know what I'm talking about. He doesn't recognize his behavior, and if he does, he doesn't see a problem with it.

 

What should I do from here? Is he taking me for granted? Am I showing low self-respect by putting up with this behavior? Is there any more I can do to communicate with him or to convince him to stop taking me for granted? I would really appreciate any advice.

[mustlovedogs]

My first question is why are you talking during movies? They are basically solo events with a warm familiar body sitting near you...

[boltnrun]

I agree, last thing I want when I'm trying to watch a film is someone trying to get my attention with a hand hold or whatever.

 

However, he responds to friends (why the heck are his friends coming along on dates???), so maybe he just doesn't like PDA.

[Birdie]

Is this only when you go to movies? What about doing other activities or dates?

[Hollyj]

Is this only when you go to movies? What about doing other activities or dates?

 

I was going to ask the same. How does he treat you out in public with his friends?

[JaggerJim]

If he won't acknowledge you in front of his friends, that's not a good sign. A real man will hold your hand and treat you like his girlfriend. If this behaviour goes beyond the movies, I'd reconsider my boyfriend options.