Need some advice on a situation.

[altnation]

So we've been separated for about 3 weeks or so.

The long distance relationship has been a tad bit tough sometimes because she has 2 kids and the youngest kids father wants to reconcile with her and she isn't sure if she wants or what she should pursue. (We were together for a year and she had to travel to her country to stay sometime before coming back here for her workers permit).

We had a bit of a miscommunication a day ago and she didn't like what I said about something even though I meant differently. All of a sudden she told me not talk to her and I should leave her alone and she'll block me if I try to talk to her.

The thing is she hasn't blocked me from any social media or mobile messaging. I haven't tried my luck messaging her again prior to the fight but why tell me not to talk to you and leave you alone and not block me?.. Thanks in advance for your advice on the situation.

[RayF]

It's hard to tell without more details on your relationship but have you noticed her behavior being different lately? Be honest with yourself.

 

it sounds to me like she was using the dispute as an excuse, her doubt caused her to be irritable and deep down she wants the relationship to end and is using this as a catalyst to distance herself or for you to pull the plug. Could have something to do with the kids father. Maybe something to do with her and you. But something is going on.

 

my LDR just ended and the signs were there. Little things she would forget or neglect to do and when I called her out on it she got defensive and accused me of putting pressure on her.

 

She ended it it with me, she had her doubts before we even started LD. The distance caught it in limbo.

 

im not saying LDR can't work, but if there were problems there before they will give the person enough time and space to reflect on that.

 

id ask her if she wants to have a discussion about yours and her relationship and if she's having doubts. She's likely to tell you things you don't want to hear and it will end... but better to know now then prolong the innevitable. It only gets harder in time.

[Kaykayxo]

She has two children by two different men? I would be running for the hills if I were you

[Wiseman2]

When someone picks a random fight to dump you and go back to their ex, they don't want you contacting them.

 

Given these circumstances I would be blocking her, not worrying if she blocked you or not.

the youngest kids father wants to reconcile with her and she isn't sure if she wants. All of a sudden she told me not talk to her and I should leave her alone and she'll block me if I try to talk to her.