is he the right one or should i break up

[laragrau]

hello guys, i'm new to this forum but i read some topics and people seem very nice and helpful here, so i thought maybe i share my story and get some good advice from you guys

2 years ago i met my current boyfriend at a party and it was love at first sight. he was shy but also cute and funny and we immediately got together.

2 years forward and we live together in a small flat. he is studying engineering and i bring in the money from my nursing job.

so i basically provide everything for him. the problem is that he is studying for 4 years now without much progress. he is to lazy and spends sometimes weeks sitting at home playing videogames instead of going to university. i dont know what to do anymore and i talked so much with him. i even said that i will kick him out or cut the money for him if he keeps being so lazy. its very complicated to communicate with him because he is smart and nice so sometimes i just forgive him. but i know it cant be like this forever and i considered leaving him. but its hard because i still love him. i'm 27 years old so most of my live is in front of me and i don't want to waste it if you guys understand what i mean. i tried self improvement guides on the internet and showed him that so he can get his ass up but he shows little interest in those.

does somebody have similar problems and knows what i can do?

thanks for reading

[j.man]

Man or woman, unless there are kids involved, I firmly believe you shouldn't be financially dependent on your partner. What do you get back for paying his bills? The gift of his company?

 

Snailing his way through college on your dime is a pretty big slap to the face whether you realize it or not. There are certainly better men to invest in if that's your aim.

[Wiseman2]

Your "investment" is going down the toilet. If you kick him out he will find another sugar mama because that's all he wants. He's a parasite not an investment.

 

Let him get off his rear and get student loans, student housing and ...OMG a job!

i basically provide everything for him. the problem is that he is studying for 4 years now without much progress. he is to lazy and spends sometimes weeks sitting at home playing videogames instead of going to university.

[laragrau]

i don't want to be in denial so thanks for the harsh words guys

but although you can see him as a parasite he is still a very kind soul. hes not the guy to intentionally exploit me (i think)

sometimes he makes it look like its not a big deal that i provide for him but maybe its just because he is to guilty about this. i don't know

maybe i'm just in denial

[sara-pezzini]

Aside from now kicking him out, i think you're afraid to stand up for yourself which is why it's hard to talk to him, and that made you accept the situation longer than you should have.

And that send him the message that it was okay to treat you that way.

It's not you know? You did the right thing kicking him out and if your determined to get back with him than first make him show you change, and not just promises, real change!

Good luck! And stay firm please or he'll walk all over you!